• roux [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    2 months ago

    The current “therapy strategies” is ABA which is literally abuse. They didn’t even bury the lede. They just flatout omitted that part. “[…]shape better therapy strategies” implies making the current ones better, but the current ones are abysmal. So it’s pretty obvious that they think anyone on the spectrum that isn’t passing as a “normal human” is subhuman trash. I just can’t fucking believe that this title basically reads like “It turns out dumb autistic kids are pretty close to functioning humans, please disregard how fascist this sounds. Have a good day.” Who fucking let this get published?

    I was lucky and suffered my entire 41 years of existing going undiagnosed and never experiencing ABA but a lot have. And Autism moms/parents remain willfully ignorant about it.

  • un_mask_me [any]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    2 months ago

    I’ve been touching grass and looking for a place to get tested that takes my shitty insurance and this just… makes me all kinds of anxious about what I’m about to go through.

  • StarkWolf [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    2 months ago

    A few months ago my grandmother got incredibly angry at me over some perceived slight due to not responding correctly in some interaction, and I tried to explain to her that as an autistic person I often do not pick up on or understand social expectations in social situations, and her response was “So what you’re saying is that you don’t have emotions?” and I just ???

    I do not understand why this assumption is made.

    • mathemachristian [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
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      2 months ago

      There is this mindset “If I can’t see it it doesn’t exist”. I saw a discussion on lemmy.world where an anti-vegan claimed that animals don’t have emotions since they can’t speak, so it’s ok to kill them if it can be done painlessl. They stopped arguing that point when I pointed out that by his logic I could eat my newborn.

      Not too long ago the mentality was that babies can’t feel pain and so they underwent surgery without anesthetic, in general there is a lot of horrible child abuse that was seen as normal child rearing since the baby/child couldn’t articulate themselves in a way they were used to.

  • ReadFanon [any, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    2 months ago

    There’s that meme about being a woman who is trip-sitting a man in his 30s who has just come to the realisation that other people have feelings.

    This is like the allistic researcher version of that meme.

  • lapis [fae/faer, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    2 months ago

    I’m sorry but, what the actual fuck is wrong with allistics?

    a fucking revelation?! shape better therapy strategies?! how about shaping a more holistic approach to understanding people and interacting socially and allowing neurodivergent people to be themselves? how about spend an hour talking to an autistic person while actually considering how they react to things rather than assuming we’re emotionless computers just because we don’t use the same social cueing criteria as allistics?

    jesus fucking christ this headline got me riled.

  • Cammy [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    2 months ago

    This reminds me of that story here a while back about the autistic man who didn’t react appropriately to someone’s death and being convicted of murder.

    It’s fucking bleak out here that we have to make Oscar- winning emotional performances to convince people we have feelings.

    I think masking as a concept gets mistaken as just concealing ND traits, when there is this element of forced emoting involved as well. You’re actively masking when you force a smile to convince a person that you’re actually happy. God forbid you can’t cry on command to align with the pain you’re feeling.

    If someone tells you they’re feeling a certain way, just believe them. You have nothing to lose.