• funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works
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    1 year ago

    if you love what you do…

    for me the greater challenge is that so many kinksters are actually very tedious people who really want to tell you about their sex lives in lieu of an actual conversation

    • Seven@startrek.website
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      A friend of a friend once talked me into going to a munch, where some scenes were going to be done. I’m interested in seeing new things and try to be open to having my horizons broadened, so I figured why not?

      I have to say, not only did I find it intensely boring, it was also about as much of a turn-off as I can imagine any in-person experience being.

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          Yeah, munch is basically kink recess. It’s a get together for the community that is almost explicitly non-sexual, just because it’s good and useful to have some time set aside for that.

          Now, to be completely honest, I’ve never seen the appeal. I’m not in the scene to talk about the scene. But I appreciate the benefits of them for people that want that social aspect.

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          I’m aware of that now, but at the time didn’t know anything about it … it was being done in a community space where there was a bar and plenty of space for activities.

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        Yeah, I can’t imagine doing a munch where there’s scenes involved, that just seems weird, but the ones I’ve been to just serve as like lunch with some like minded people who just happen to be talking about cock and ball torture in an iHop

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      Yeah, I’ve encountered this. Not everyone in a community is a tedious, kink-obsessed person, but they will be the ones there the most, and it feels like the only thing they actually care about sometimes.

      I’m not shaming them, enjoy what you enjoy, but I feel the same about them as I feel about people who make weed a cornerstone of their personality.

      • Rob Bos@lemmy.ca
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        1 year ago

        People super into hobbies, I mean. Like someone who’s so into homebrew or model trains that they have abstruse knowledge and use jargon to the point of incomprehensibility.

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        People who geek out about sex. I mean no issue with that. I’m mostly jealous.

        • SuckMyWang@lemmy.world
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          Don’t worry about it. We can start our own group. Come join me and my shell fish and horse hair kink

  • paddirn@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    At this point it’s not just for kinks, it’s for modern sexuality and dating in general.

  • RBWells@lemmy.world
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    Not kink exactly but I had a boss who abbreviated Due To/From (when one segment of the business owes another for something) as DTF and I never figured out if he was trolling us, or had just never seen it used.

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        Down to fuck. A crude way of saying “m’lady/m’man, would you like to copulate with me?”

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        1 year ago

        “Down to… (have some super) fun (times)”

        Except the f doesn’t mean fun and the parenthesis are added by me. But if both parties consent I’m sure it would be a lot of fun.

  • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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    It’s not that bad you just have to start with a 4 letter acronym that means 6 words and from there you pick up a bunch of new acronyms that already mean something else to you and will randomly be used for their normal meaning without warning just to test if you’re paying attention

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    I have a kink for white cotton camisoles and croptops, the thin material ones. I don’t know where it came from but it’s very strong. If I felt that way about feet I’d consider myself odd. Is there an acronym for this?

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    1 year ago

    Are Reddit and Lemmy kinks? Because there are so many acronyms used here and there.

  • GluWu@lemm.ee
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    So many different bois. But I just want one for myself.