• ElectricMoon@sh.itjust.works
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    6 months ago

    I was told this the day after my father died. I was walking to my college class just trying to act normal. Wish I would have responded appropriately but being shell shocked over bigger problems prevented me.

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      I have no problem mouthing off to assholes - as long as I’m prepared. When it comes out of nowhere, my brain stalls up.

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      The correct response, and ive actually done this becausebim a complete edgelord and its my default was "you’re right. Grandma was a racist bitch; I should be happy she’s dead. Thanks mister!’

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    This happened to me about 10 minutes after I found out my childhood best friend committed suicide.

    “OH SMILE! IT CANT BE THAT BAD!”

    I just let it slide and paid for my damn smokes, lady was just trying to be upbeat and friendly. Dumping that on her would have just made her feel bad and wouldnt have made me feel any better.

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      Honestly sometimes people should be made to feel bad, and making comments to strangers about how they aren’t performing pleasantness satisfactorily enough for the general public is one of those times. Not dumping it on them definitely makes you the bigger person, but if someone doesn’t want people dumping their problems on them then telling every upset looking stranger “it can’t be that bad!” is the absolute worst way to go about it, lol.

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        Yeah, I think it speaks to the bubble that she lives in. Bubbles exist to pop, and I think being told exactly that it can be that bad is the perfect way to do it.

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      It also could’ve been a lesson for her in being overly flippant with people who do sometimes have genuine problems they are mired in.

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    If anyone is wondering, it’s Jael or Yael, and Sisera. He was a defeated Canaanite general who fled to what he thought was a friendly village, but Jael had Israelite sympathies so she hammered a tent spike through his head while he slept. The image is from an illuminated 14th century manuscript from Germany.

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    If you want someone to smile, you don’t tell them to smile, that will just piss them off. The real solution is to try to make them smile by cheering them up. Ideally with something funny or wholesome. Who knows? They might really appreciate it and be a bit more fond of you.

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        Yes, provided that you already have their number and don’t send anything too risky. Following someone around with your phone to show them memes might freak them out if you don’t know them.

        “Hey Lady! Stop running, I just want to show you my memes!”

        “Get away from me!”

        That is not socially acceptable.

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    Don’t smile like an idiot in your work Teams profile picture. Somebody might have a really bad day and you’re in their way.

    …especially if you’re a mortician or something similar.