I’ve been going to a queer polyam meetup group in my area for a few months now and had lots of cool convos and made friends in that space and it’s been nice. Last week I ended up chatting with someone for like…most of the time, totally accidentally. Last night we had a date that went like, wow? I dunno, it was nice and totally unexpected. I wasn’t going to the group to date, just to make friends and have community that understands queer polyam intersectionality, but it was still nice to make that kind of connection too. No point to any of this really but in the past like few weeks I feel like a lot of the queer community I’ve been trying to participate in I’ve been feeling more connected with and it’s starting to really show, folks wanting to invite me to parties and asking if I’m coming to other similar events so they can hang out with me there. It’s been very validating to a baby imposter feeling queer like myself too that all these queer communities are like … yeah dude you’re one of us. Hard to feel impostery when I’m so accepted.

I guess my point if I have one is that if you have any sort of queer or queer friendly community groups near you and they’re nice you should definitely put in the effort to go to them and just like…be you and talk to people and make connections. It’s been many months of me going to various queer and queer friendly community group things and I’m finally starting to make real friends and community in these spaces. It’s very validating and nice and . I hope you all can find groups like that too, or already have them.