Mostly lurking. United States southerner, gay, working retail. An amazing combination

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Cake day: February 23rd, 2024

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  • Alice@beehaw.orgto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneRule
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    29 minutes ago

    It’s like a sweetened, fizzy sassafras drink. Pretty good depending where you get it.

    The USA has a weird thing where we use the words for alcoholic drinks to describe non-alcoholic ones. We also call spiced fruit drinks “cider” and actual cider “hard cider”. Not sure why.








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    2 days ago

    Just because you’re aro or aroace doesn’t mean you don’t understand heartache and loss. When we empathize with fictional characters, is it because we’ve been through exactly what they’ve been through? Doubtful, because then fantasy wouldn’t exist. But we’ve had similar emotions, so it resonates.

    I don’t really see why songs would be any different.



  • My mother’s policy was that the first time we do something wrong, talk with us, help us learn why it was wrong and how we should have acted. If we do it again even with that knowledge, punish us.

    I feel like that would apply here, too, even if you don’t see leaving them with the consequences as actively punishing them. But as a kid it’s easy to get in over your head before you learn your own limits, and you’re not born with the knowledge of how to bail yourself out. I think they deserve a grace period.





  • Lil bit of a bummer, feels like I just exercise, work, and sleep. My limited free time has been spent on my family, which… ughhhh by the time I realized they mistreated me all my life and I hate them, they’d lost power over me, so basically they’re not pushing me around anymore and think we’re all friends, and I don’t know how to tell them that I’m retroactively spiteful. So I play nice.

    Gonna try so hard to get some reading and drawing done in the coming days.