A lot of people have a huge problem with bi men, particularly the idea of dating one! There are sad biphobic reasons for this. I am going to tell you the rea...
I probably shouldn’t have watched this video today as I was already feeling a bit down. Whoops.
My worst experience re this problem… was on a date with a woman, it was going really well, we were in a pub after the meal and ended up kissing. She pulls back, takes a deep breath, confides in me that she has experimented with women and asks if that’s a problem? I breathe a sigh of relief, say it’s no problem and that I’m pan. She immediately pulls back further with a look of pure revulsion on her face, and says “Sorry but that’s just a huge turn-off. I know it’s hypocritical but I can’t help how I feel”
She was a therapist too. I’m putting myself out there again as of the last month or so, but I didn’t date for a long time after that. I kinda feel like I don’t want to even bother trying to date someone who isn’t also LGBT but it seems the prejudice is also high in our own community!
Thanks, I appreciate your comment bigtime. TBH I feel like the stuff people like me go through, while it sucks, is nothing compared to the vicious persecution trans people receive now. It seems like the right has switched their floodlights onto them as the boogeyman to be attacked atm.
I will say though, I have nieces who are working through secondary / college and of course there is still discrimination, but it seems to be way less of an issue for younger generations, which is a comfort :)
I appreciate your sentiment and do think that it’s important to defend trans rights and not let the right split us up. But I also want to say that just because horrible shit is happening in one place doesn’t mean we can’t address other issues in the community while we’re at it. We don’t need to play suffering olympics, and if we do then we lose out on valuable intersectional experiences.
I’m sorry that that shit happened to you. People can really suck sometimes :/
I probably shouldn’t have watched this video today as I was already feeling a bit down. Whoops.
My worst experience re this problem… was on a date with a woman, it was going really well, we were in a pub after the meal and ended up kissing. She pulls back, takes a deep breath, confides in me that she has experimented with women and asks if that’s a problem? I breathe a sigh of relief, say it’s no problem and that I’m pan. She immediately pulls back further with a look of pure revulsion on her face, and says “Sorry but that’s just a huge turn-off. I know it’s hypocritical but I can’t help how I feel”
She was a therapist too. I’m putting myself out there again as of the last month or so, but I didn’t date for a long time after that. I kinda feel like I don’t want to even bother trying to date someone who isn’t also LGBT but it seems the prejudice is also high in our own community!
Peak “WTF” moment. I’m really sorry you went through that.
Hopefully stuff like this video means that things are getting better - I hope that translates into better experiences for you in the future.
Thanks, I appreciate your comment bigtime. TBH I feel like the stuff people like me go through, while it sucks, is nothing compared to the vicious persecution trans people receive now. It seems like the right has switched their floodlights onto them as the boogeyman to be attacked atm.
I will say though, I have nieces who are working through secondary / college and of course there is still discrimination, but it seems to be way less of an issue for younger generations, which is a comfort :)
I appreciate your sentiment and do think that it’s important to defend trans rights and not let the right split us up. But I also want to say that just because horrible shit is happening in one place doesn’t mean we can’t address other issues in the community while we’re at it. We don’t need to play suffering olympics, and if we do then we lose out on valuable intersectional experiences.
I’m sorry that that shit happened to you. People can really suck sometimes :/
Sounds like she needs a therapist :P
Biphobia is a pretty big turn-off ngl
For real. She asked me if I’d like to stay for another drink, I said no thanks and went home.