Looking great! Genuine cis question, when I come across fabulous looking trans people, I get really conflicted, I want to look and admire and wonder and praise, but I’m nervous that they’d really just like to blend in and not be ogled. I guess I often end up “staunchly not looking”. What’d you prefer if it was you?
not op, but personally im never opposed so somebody complimenting me as long as it comes across as a genuine compliment (ex: i like your style/outfit/vibe) and not somebody just trying to hit on me or something.
(edit: lol actually i love to be hit on im a slut but shhhhhh)
I’m ace and sex-repulsed, so I don’t much appreciate getting hit on, but I mostly just hope I get compliments from other cool queers (which usually happens; it’s just cishets with their razor sharp focus and katalepsis-esque inability to see).
Before I was on hormones and maybe in the first 6 - 8 months on HRT, I had so many usually cis, white, liberal women (one time a cis white liberal dude) come up to me and compliment my dress / skirt / whatever. I take it as a sign I’m passing more that nobody does that anymore, lol.
I think it’s important how it comes across, like when you’re complimenting cis people. So, context and what it is that you’re complimenting is what I would pay attention to.
It’s pretty nuanced, I think. I pass well enough (or not really, I don’t care anymore) and just want to be left alone. I’m sure the compliments come from a place of support, but it just feels like being lied to.
I mean, I’m not out here wearing a t-shirt and jeans for compliments; I’m out here looking like a Final Fantasy protagonist cause it makes me feel good. Also cause I want other queer people to notice too.
That said, my wardrobe goes from naked, through one single pair of pajamas, to a vast and fantastic wardrobe of no pants whatsoever and insane outfits.
Looking great! Genuine cis question, when I come across fabulous looking trans people, I get really conflicted, I want to look and admire and wonder and praise, but I’m nervous that they’d really just like to blend in and not be ogled. I guess I often end up “staunchly not looking”. What’d you prefer if it was you?
not op, but personally im never opposed so somebody complimenting me as long as it comes across as a genuine compliment (ex: i like your style/outfit/vibe) and not somebody just trying to hit on me or something.
(edit: lol actually i love to be hit on im a slut but shhhhhh)
I’m ace and sex-repulsed, so I don’t much appreciate getting hit on, but I mostly just hope I get compliments from other cool queers (which usually happens; it’s just cishets with their razor sharp focus and katalepsis-esque inability to see).
yeah I always get comfy around queer people then some cis het dude sees that, comes in, and makes everybody uncomfortable, never fails.
Hey baby, looking fit … ;)
Saaaame
Before I was on hormones and maybe in the first 6 - 8 months on HRT, I had so many usually cis, white, liberal women (one time a cis white liberal dude) come up to me and compliment my dress / skirt / whatever. I take it as a sign I’m passing more that nobody does that anymore, lol.
I think it’s important how it comes across, like when you’re complimenting cis people. So, context and what it is that you’re complimenting is what I would pay attention to.
That being said, I love getting compliments haha.
Compliments! :D
It’s pretty nuanced, I think. I pass well enough (or not really, I don’t care anymore) and just want to be left alone. I’m sure the compliments come from a place of support, but it just feels like being lied to.
I’m probably an outlier. 🤷🏻♀️
I mean, I’m not out here wearing a t-shirt and jeans for compliments; I’m out here looking like a Final Fantasy protagonist cause it makes me feel good. Also cause I want other queer people to notice too.
That said, my wardrobe goes from naked, through one single pair of pajamas, to a vast and fantastic wardrobe of no pants whatsoever and insane outfits.