• prettybunnys@sh.itjust.works
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    23 hours ago

    Yes, they’re two consenting adults.

    Just one actually has a fully formed frontal lobe and the other is a child by every other metric EXCEPT for the arbitrary age we decided people are now legally responsible.

    Age is more than a number as it turns out.

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      22 hours ago

      muh frontal lobe

      The fact that the brain stops development at 25 is a myth and has been debunked for a long time.

      In no other country but America would anyone call someone a pedo for dating a 19-year-old woman but we love to infantilize women so therefore it can’t simply be two of-age adults in a similar social group dating -they’re literally just dating - something nefarious must be going on.

      Just say you’re upset that a young woman is living her life the way she wants to, not the way you want her to.

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          22 hours ago

          What’s the misunderstanding here then? Because all I see is Ver. 3000 of the same Reddit-tier circlejerk thread that tries to make some argument about a celebrity being a pedophile but always, inevitably just ends up perpetuating the infantilization of adult women and robbing them of their agency.

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            21 hours ago

            The legal definition of Adult and the concept of adult as it pertains to humans is not a direct correlation.

            Nobody is infantilizing her by thinking it is pretty icky and gross for him to continue to pursue women who are just legally eligible for him to date.

            If you’re confused by this I am sure continuing to argue your point won’t make you look like you’re advocating for this sort of thing.

            Hope this helps!

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              21 hours ago

              Of course I’m aware of the differences between mature/immature and adult/minor. On that point I’ll say again that America defines one of the longest “childhoods” in the western world and that still isn’t enough for some misogynists when a woman ages out of that and starts acting like… a woman. Not one of us ITT know either person but I’m more willing to bet that Leonardo DiCaprio, who’s spent almost his whole life in the closed-off Hollywood Clubhouse is more immature than a model who at least attended “normal people” school, lived in “normal people” society, is less mature.

              Nobody is infantilizing her by thinking it is pretty icky and gross for him to continue to pursue women who are just legally eligible for him to date.

              But that’s the thing: they are infantlizing her. Every piece of criticism comes from her age which is perceived as being “too young.” To say that LD only dates women who are “just legally eligible for him” comes from nothing and is so insulting to these women, like they have no say in the matter because, again, it’s hard for you to believe that an adult woman has any agency.

              It reduces her entire person to just her numerical age. You need to look no further than the OP pic itself that makes it a point to highlight her age. Curiously, no mention of how old LD is, only this obsession with the woman’s age and that she’s too young. It’s fucking weird.