The point isn’t that someone has a tiny dick. The point is that someone is trying to overcompensate their toxic masculinity to account for it. Its like when someone speeds in a huge car in the middle of the city centre.
Well fair, but using toxic stereotypes, even ironically, doesn’t seem to be the way to dismantle that stereotype. It’s like if a woman made fun of a man for liking pegging, and I call her a whore. No one should value a person based on their genitals or how many people they sleep with.
Perhaps he’s objecting to having the alleged hand gesture referred to as feminist. A bit of a quibble, but not completely baseless.
Then again it may not be fair to claim that whenever feminists do hurtful things in the name of feminism, that it’s not real feminism. Feminism can do bad things too. Any philosophy can.
I feel like we’re kind of in the weeds here so I’m going to state my position openly. I’m a man who has been accused of having a small penis many times in life. I say this to communicate that I understand what it’s like to be accused of having a small penis and I get it.
Any man who thinks that a pinching motion is unquestionably making fun of them for having a small penis with our out confirmation, needs to get help. That motion is done all the time by all genders for any particular reason. Any man who causes harm because someone said he has a small penis also needs help. If you need help and you don’t get help and continue to behave in antisocial manner, then you deserve to be made fun of. At a certain point, antisocial behavior needs to be handled.
If a large enough group of men are being antisocial because of a pinching motion. I think it’s fine for feminists to make the pinching motion intentionally to cause insult. For women to have to just deal with the antisocial behavior and ignore it is not acceptable.
My opinions would be the same if the genders would be reversed, so I feel like I’ve got a pretty solid argument here.
Any man who thinks that a pinching motion is unquestionably making fun of them for having a small penis with our out confirmation, needs to get help.
“Get help” is not so simple, and is a patronizing, individualist thing to say to people who are having trauma responses to bodyshaming. People should set their own personal boundaries with antisocial people, and society at large should address the root cause by creating systems that disincentivize bodyshaming.
If a large enough group of men are being antisocial because of a pinching motion. I think it’s fine for feminists to make the pinching motion intentionally to cause insult.
And I think it’s fine for men to then bodyshame women in turn. But – oh wait – making excuses for bodyshaming doesn’t actually improve anything. It just increases tension and resentment.
For women to have to just deal with the antisocial behavior and ignore it is not acceptable.
“Get help” is not so simple, and is a patronizing, individualist thing to say to people who are having trauma responses to bodyshaming.
I agree that it isn’t always simple to do. I didn’t mean it in a patronizing way, I meant it in a matter of fact way. Do you not suggest people who are having trauma responses to every hand gesture that mimics a pinch? Clearly they need to get help or they are going to be constantly in a trauma response their entire life by people who mean them no offense. It’s a pretty sad way to live, so much potential wasted.
I have gotten help and it has improved my situation drastically. I would suggest anyone give it a try.
And I think it’s fine for men to then bodyshame women in turn. But – oh wait – making excuses for bodyshaming doesn’t actually improve anything. It just increases tension and resentment.
I think if you make the claim that men have human limitations and can’t help but to retaliate or instigate, you need to hold that claim for women as well. We are all humans just doing our best. This whole thing has been made super public and both sides have been hurt. So the fallout is unavoidable here. Why should women be expected to hold the civility line when men are having trauma responses to perceived body shaming?
It’s been a bit since I have looked into the situation but last time I check several artists are out of a job and business are scared because of a pinch gesture. The retaliation has been feminists who actually mean to body shame. Has there been anything else? Have any body shamed men lost money, jobs, or their lively hood?
All this to say, from where I am standing the traumatized men are still a head here.
There are more choices than just these two.
I never implied there were only two choices. There are many options. I think picking the “returning fire” option is reasonable.
But maybe I am missing a better option. If you have a suggestion, please make it.
Do you not suggest people who are having trauma responses to every hand gesture that mimics a pinch?
I do agree that it’s good for them to get help if they can, so long as there is room for them having reasons not to get help; and room for them to try other approaches to getting help (such as hanging around people who treat them well); and room for them to get help but not improve.
I think if you make the claim that men have human limitations and can’t help but to retaliate or instigate, you need to hold that claim for women as well.
I agree, and I do hold that claim for women. Where I draw a hard line is creating cultural excuses and encouragement for retaliation and instigation, which I believe you have done by saying it’s fine for women to intentionally instigate men to cause insult. That is no longer treating their reactions as unfortunate trauma responses; it is actively justifying and supporting their actions.
I don’t expect women to be civil, but also don’t think society should excuse their incivility. The same is true of men.
All this to say, from where I am standing the traumatized men are still a head here.
I’m not living their lives, and am not aware of all the media around it, so I can’t say for sure. What I can say for sure is that I strongly oppose politics that try to excuse harming groups just because they’re less harmed than other groups. It worsens tension and just makes society shittier for everyone involved.
But maybe I am missing a better option. If you have a suggestion, please make it.
I think we should not excuse or encourage people intentionally harming other people. If they harm other people inevitably due to their trauma, then that is regrettable but unavoidable. Rather, we should focus on creating uplifting spaces where people of all genders are brought together across divides to focus on common goals and interests. This helps humanize the other and reduce social tension.
Yeah, the response is absolutely unacceptable, I’m just commenting on the article using the term feminist incorrectly. Feminism is not about being derogatory against people with penises.
making derogatory comments about people’s penises is not feminist
The point isn’t that someone has a tiny dick. The point is that someone is trying to overcompensate their toxic masculinity to account for it. Its like when someone speeds in a huge car in the middle of the city centre.
Well fair, but using toxic stereotypes, even ironically, doesn’t seem to be the way to dismantle that stereotype. It’s like if a woman made fun of a man for liking pegging, and I call her a whore. No one should value a person based on their genitals or how many people they sleep with.
Well that’s me sold on picking the bear
Yes, but that didn’t happen here.
Perhaps he’s objecting to having the alleged hand gesture referred to as feminist. A bit of a quibble, but not completely baseless.
Then again it may not be fair to claim that whenever feminists do hurtful things in the name of feminism, that it’s not real feminism. Feminism can do bad things too. Any philosophy can.
I feel like we’re kind of in the weeds here so I’m going to state my position openly. I’m a man who has been accused of having a small penis many times in life. I say this to communicate that I understand what it’s like to be accused of having a small penis and I get it.
Any man who thinks that a pinching motion is unquestionably making fun of them for having a small penis with
ourout confirmation, needs to get help. That motion is done all the time by all genders for any particular reason. Any man who causes harm because someone said he has a small penis also needs help. If you need help and you don’t get help and continue to behave in antisocial manner, then you deserve to be made fun of. At a certain point, antisocial behavior needs to be handled.If a large enough group of men are being antisocial because of a pinching motion. I think it’s fine for feminists to make the pinching motion intentionally to cause insult. For women to have to just deal with the antisocial behavior and ignore it is not acceptable.
My opinions would be the same if the genders would be reversed, so I feel like I’ve got a pretty solid argument here.
“Get help” is not so simple, and is a patronizing, individualist thing to say to people who are having trauma responses to bodyshaming. People should set their own personal boundaries with antisocial people, and society at large should address the root cause by creating systems that disincentivize bodyshaming.
And I think it’s fine for men to then bodyshame women in turn. But – oh wait – making excuses for bodyshaming doesn’t actually improve anything. It just increases tension and resentment.
There are more choices than just these two.
I agree that it isn’t always simple to do. I didn’t mean it in a patronizing way, I meant it in a matter of fact way. Do you not suggest people who are having trauma responses to every hand gesture that mimics a pinch? Clearly they need to get help or they are going to be constantly in a trauma response their entire life by people who mean them no offense. It’s a pretty sad way to live, so much potential wasted.
I have gotten help and it has improved my situation drastically. I would suggest anyone give it a try.
I think if you make the claim that men have human limitations and can’t help but to retaliate or instigate, you need to hold that claim for women as well. We are all humans just doing our best. This whole thing has been made super public and both sides have been hurt. So the fallout is unavoidable here. Why should women be expected to hold the civility line when men are having trauma responses to perceived body shaming?
It’s been a bit since I have looked into the situation but last time I check several artists are out of a job and business are scared because of a pinch gesture. The retaliation has been feminists who actually mean to body shame. Has there been anything else? Have any body shamed men lost money, jobs, or their lively hood?
All this to say, from where I am standing the traumatized men are still a head here.
I never implied there were only two choices. There are many options. I think picking the “returning fire” option is reasonable.
But maybe I am missing a better option. If you have a suggestion, please make it.
I do agree that it’s good for them to get help if they can, so long as there is room for them having reasons not to get help; and room for them to try other approaches to getting help (such as hanging around people who treat them well); and room for them to get help but not improve.
I agree, and I do hold that claim for women. Where I draw a hard line is creating cultural excuses and encouragement for retaliation and instigation, which I believe you have done by saying it’s fine for women to intentionally instigate men to cause insult. That is no longer treating their reactions as unfortunate trauma responses; it is actively justifying and supporting their actions.
I don’t expect women to be civil, but also don’t think society should excuse their incivility. The same is true of men.
I’m not living their lives, and am not aware of all the media around it, so I can’t say for sure. What I can say for sure is that I strongly oppose politics that try to excuse harming groups just because they’re less harmed than other groups. It worsens tension and just makes society shittier for everyone involved.
I think we should not excuse or encourage people intentionally harming other people. If they harm other people inevitably due to their trauma, then that is regrettable but unavoidable. Rather, we should focus on creating uplifting spaces where people of all genders are brought together across divides to focus on common goals and interests. This helps humanize the other and reduce social tension.
Yes, this was my point, the idea of a gesture for someone’s penis size is not feminist, it is derogatory/toxic masculinity.
But it was the way the characters hand was positioned! No commentary, just a picture in a trailer for a cutesy game
The response is ridiculous, but not surprising
Yeah, the response is absolutely unacceptable, I’m just commenting on the article using the term feminist incorrectly. Feminism is not about being derogatory against people with penises.
It is called misandry.
That’s a bit of a loaded term though. I do agree that it promotes toxic male stereotypes, yes.