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On Blahaj and 196 - Hexbear
hexbear.netDue to multiple factors, such as unaddressed ableist removals
[https://hexbear.net/pictrs/image/3df0e4c7-bb64-4c00-bbdb-5c753018895c.jpeg?format=webp]
from the /c/196 moderators, defense of chasers
[https://hexbear.net/pictrs/image/97e9abd7-e8be-499e-8db7-7a7d5d1e2762.webp],
no-quarter rules regarding our users
[https://hexbear.net/pictrs/image/8dc37487-d36b-4a55-9519-c3f8bb4fcae6.png],
leakage of good-faith DMs from our admin team [https://hexbear.net/post/361826],
and a general lack of initiative to punish these behaviors, we have come to the
conclusion that the 196 community on lemmy.blahaj.zone has made the fediverse an
unsafe space for our queer, disabled, neurodivergent, non-western, and other
marginalized comrades on this forum, and we will be defederating from
lemmy.blahaj.zone until we can be confident that this will not continue to be an
issue. We have attempted to make good-faith parley with both the instance admin
and the comm moderators, but we've reached a point which we feel that until
these behaviors are addressed by instance administration, we can no longer
continue to federate in good-faith while our users are being actively
invalidated by a small-but-vocal portion of the forum. Once we are confident
that these behaviors have ceased and are unlikely to continue, we are
more-than-happy to refederate in the name of queer solidarity. Thanks for
bearing with us :07:
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That’s why I said it probably wouldn’t work. Most trans people would feel uncomfortable in that situation, so of course we wouldn’t pursue a relationship.
I did know someone (casually, did not date) who was a pre-transition trans man who wasn’t terribly bothered by letting cis men enjoy his boobs, which is why I brought up that specific scenario. I don’t know if he dated cis men, but it wouldn’t surprise me. I also assume that if he did, then the relationship would probably stay pretty casual with a planned end date of whenever he started physically transitioning.
There’s also a reason Moss - and most people, including Ada - were frustrated enough with the reports to publicly say “this is not transphobia”. Because it’s not, and some people are too quick to be triggered.
It helps that there was an entire instance trawling our posts, looking for any controversy to amplify into the short story du jour.
I’m all for talking about these things and figuring out what norms we want to uphold in our spaces. I’m not in favor of waves hands whatever this has turned out to be.
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