I swear, every time I try to make friends, it doesn’t go how I expect to and I lose all the effort I put in as they leave for circumstances outside my control, and i’m damn tired tbh :(
The key is repeated interaction. Better to join a group that meets regularly and let friendships with other attendees build naturally than to try to make friends with an individual you don’t have a reason to see frequently.
naturally…
Sir… (said I, “or Madam truly-”)
I believe you have identified the issue exactly. How does a person do this “natural” thing or, if it does somehow happen, how does a person avoid interfering with its progress?I use he/sir pronouns.
Keep hanging out with the same people and it just happens. Or maybe you’re not compatible and you’ll never be friends with those people. Without knowing you better I can’t give you any particular recommendations on how to make yourself compatible with more people beyond trying to be an enjoyable person to be around. Could be good to just try out a few of this sort of meetups and stick with whichever it feels like you’re getting along with people best at.
