I host a few docker containers and use nginx proxy manager to access them externally since I like to have access away from home. Most of them have some sort of login system but there are a few examples where there isn’t so I currently don’t publicly expose them. I would ideally like to be able to use totp for this as well.
I use Traefik as reverse proxy and Authentik as SSO IdP. When I connect to my “exposed” service, Traefik middleware determines if I have the appropriate access credentials established. If so, I get access; if not, I’m bounced over to Authentik, where I enter my username, and authenticate via Passkey (modern passwordless gated by private keys behind biometrics unlock). The middleware can also be bypassed based on my pre established private custom HTTP header, so apps doesn’t support the flow (ie mobile client for some apps) can get in directly as well.
I’ve got the same setup! What I love about authentik is that I can even add a Google login as an authentication method. That severely increases the spouse-acceptance factor, as they don’t have to “remember yet another password” or “carry around another thingie”. Personally I use a YubiKey anyway, but for others who aren’t into it “for fun” or for philosophical reasons reducing the friction as much as possible is paramount.
I’m so lucky I got my SO on board with using a password manager early on! However, the passwordless login (after figuring out how send a user to the enroll stage initially) makes it so smiple, don’t even need the federated Google login.