• ChaosCoati@midwest.social
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    2 months ago

    It’s hard. And I feel like the older we get, the busier our days are and suddenly it’s been months since we last messaged each other. The time blindness and “out of sight, out of mind” definitely doesn’t help.

    • Catarinalina@lemmy.world
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      2 months ago

      Thank you! That perfectly describes the “time blindness” problem I’ve been noticing more and more lately. There’s always been a descrepancy between what I think is a normal time between contact and what others think. I’ll happily move on to my day-to-day life and then contact a friend a month or two later and they’ll feel resentment because of the time. Honestly I hadn’t even noticed it, certainly wasn’t intentional or meant to hurt.

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        2 months ago

        Friendship is a two-way street. If they resent you for the time when they could just as easily contact you too then they’re not a good friend.