• Dashi@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I am 100% pro choice. With that choice though is her option to keep the baby. And if they do hopefully it is a good relationship and the man steps up.

    If it isn’t and they don’t want to stay together at least the man can avoid fighting her over shit and just man up, admit the child is his and pay/ deal with the issues.

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      1 year ago

      Well there are plenty of instances where the woman uses the baby to trap the father too. I agree though, hopefully it’s a good relationship and the man steps up to take care of the child.

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        1 year ago

        100% there is a risk for that. That’s why you take all the precautions you reasonably can. Pappa always said “don’t stick it in crazy”. The older i get the wiser that man becomes.

        Ideally we don’t have to deal with that and every couple is happy, but that isn’t the case all the time. I’m pro choice for a reason. Mistakes happen and sometimes it is better for everyone that the baby doesn’t come into the world. But if it does and the father just bails and tries to say it’s not his that’s what gets me. You played the game, you lost, deal with it. Even if the relationship doesn’t work out with the mother, do what you can to make the child’s life better.