ReadFanon has discussed neurotypicals failure of Theory of Mind eloquently, but I’d also like to elaborate.
Feminine people aren’t just socialised to avoid direct commands, we’re also socialised to avoid conflict. And if someone has directly asked an autistic person to do “task” but the person was hyperfixated on something or in a rigid routine (or they don’t see the need)…the response to that can pretty easily cause conflict. The problem is the neurotypical is generally misinterpreting the cause of conflict.
Now, the correct response is to recognise when a person is in a hyperfixated state and either wait or gently bring them out before directly asking for task (non-neurotypicals love small talk on their interests, in its proper place).
But the response for neurotypicals is to withdraw and then use oblique approaches to pressure the person socially and allow the person to “want” to do the task themselves rather than force a direct hard power conflict. Which mostly just annoys.
ReadFanon has discussed neurotypicals failure of Theory of Mind eloquently, but I’d also like to elaborate.
Feminine people aren’t just socialised to avoid direct commands, we’re also socialised to avoid conflict. And if someone has directly asked an autistic person to do “task” but the person was hyperfixated on something or in a rigid routine (or they don’t see the need)…the response to that can pretty easily cause conflict. The problem is the neurotypical is generally misinterpreting the cause of conflict.
Now, the correct response is to recognise when a person is in a hyperfixated state and either wait or gently bring them out before directly asking for task (non-neurotypicals love small talk on their interests, in its proper place).
But the response for neurotypicals is to withdraw and then use oblique approaches to pressure the person socially and allow the person to “want” to do the task themselves rather than force a direct hard power conflict. Which mostly just annoys.