• frostbiker@lemmy.ca
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    For example, a “women’s only” group may be for a group of women who are healing from a sexually violent relationship, so they really don’t want to see men there.

    “Maybe that whites-only parenting group could be healing from some trauma caused by POC and they don’t really want to see POC there.”

    Do you see the problem? A POC causing you trauma is not a good reason to reject POC people in general, and a man causing you trauma isn’t a good reason to reject men in general either.

    A group dedicated to victims of domestic violence could easily encompass both men and women who have suffered from it, whether the perpetrators were men or women. Cis & trans, it bears saying.

    A person who has a blanket phobia of people of a particular gender or ethnicity needs therapy to address their sexism/racism. “I don’t feel safe around men” has the exact same energy as “I don’t feel safe around black people”.

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      “I don’t feel safe around men” has the exact same energy as “I don’t feel safe around black people”.

      lol how to identify a dude on the Internet

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        lol how to identify a dude on the Internet

        Is that the best argument you can put forth against what I’m saying? I can give you some more ammunition: I’m queer, disabled, atheist, an immigrant and vote green. Or perhaps those are collectives that you don’t feel comfortable discriminating openly.

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          That was not an argument, don’t know why you’d think it is one.

          I just found it amusing