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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • I’m white af, but, as an American, I didn’t get treated as rudely anywhere else in Germany than Berlin. Still had a great time overall in the city, but, not really in a rush to go back.

    My friend and I were standing at a bar mulling over the menu, just kind of murming to one another over what drinks we wanted while we were waiting for the bartender to finish up with his other customers. It wasn’t busy, but he was attending to other people. When he was finally done, he approached us and I said “Hi how are you?” with a smile. He didn’t say a single word to us, just took the menus from in front of us and put them on the back shelf, and then turned away.

    So we left. Our money clearly wasn’t good enough there, and we spent it in another bar across the alleyway instead.



  • Ughhhhhh how the hell does he have a 46% approval rating?!?!? Texans really don’t care that he left them to die in the snow.

    I’m going to continue to remain optimistic…Allred did flip a historically red district blue and he’s retained control since.

    But JFC every time I start to have hope for this state, they do something that really makes me wanna throw my hands up and be like “You wanna live in unfettered Christian Nationalism? Fine. Fuck you then and you get what you want.” 😮‍💨



  • I am pretty sure that anyone who is advocating to not vote Biden because of his support of Israel is either:

    A - A GOP troll and shouldn’t be trusted in general B - Someone who feels like they’re protected because they currently live in a blue state and so a lack of access will never affect them/their loved ones.

    I’m a lady in Texas (not birthing age anymore @ 35 bitchessssss!) but shit is not good here for women who are birthing age/able to carry a child.

    If Trump (or any Republican) is elected, the blue states won’t be safe anymore either. The people suffering will be YOUR sisters, wives, mothers, cousins, aunts, etc. There won’t be crossing state lines for care, even if you could technically “afford it”.

    Focus on protecting half the country first. Prioritize your shit. No one is going to be a 100% perfect candidate.

    And before anyone comes for me, yes, I fucking hate Netanyahu and think he needs to be stopped. However, I’m also focusing on myself (and other women in America) first. Downvote me if you want, but I don’t want the abortion ban to be felt anywhere else than it has been already!

    Edit: Grammar




  • I have such a weird take on this, due to being in the military for so long. We absolutely do refer to one another as “males” and “females”.

    Ie. “There was a female SSgt that was really helpful in customer service” or “I had to remind a male Soldier to put on his cover when he left the building” or “I had a female troop once”.

    However, I try really hard when I’m speaking to a non-military member to switch up my phrasing. Sometimes I still slip up, and I gotta be like “shit, sorry, I mean that woman cashier over there” or whatever it is that I’m talking about.

    I will say though, I do distinctly remember having that conversation during basic training, and fucking hating being referred to as “female” in the beginning, and that thought being shared amongst my flightmates. I can still hear the TIs shouting from across the parking lot: “GET OVER HERE RIGHT NOW, FE-MALE!” Ugh.

    It was just 16 years ago now, so “female” has become normalized.



  • I go through phases of this with my husband. We’ve been married for 13 years, and he is legit my best friend, and I find him to be just unbelievably hot af. I’ll go weeks where I’m just like “goddamn, this is mine?”

    And then I also go through less intense periods. He’s still my partner through life and I’d get his back through anything and everything, but it’s less “omg you’re so hot” googly eyes and more like “this is the life we’ve built together and I’m so glad I did it with you”.

    But then a few weeks later I’m in crush mode.

    Obligatory of course we have our periods where we annoy the fuck out of each other, but it’s usually short-lived and we communicate and work through it. I think that’s just a realistic fact of marriage.

    He has made me such a better person than I was when I met him though. I think about that constantly.