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Cake day: October 7th, 2020

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  • Its an terribly dirty and overly simplistic and isn’t the “end all be all” but you might be able to make headway by demonstrating it either through a “troubleshooting of a situation where there’s a problem” or “kludging a solution” to a problem.

    First iteration troubleshooting:

    • I have an unsliced loaf of bread.

    • I need it to be sliced.

    • I get a butter knife to cut the bread.

    What happened? The butter knife didn’t do a good job of cutting the bread into slices.

    Second iteration troubleshooting:

    • I have an unsliced loaf of bread. I now know that using a butter knife kinda works to make slices but its not very good.

    • I need to slice the loaf of bread. But I don’t want the results of using a butter knife.

    • I get a steak knife to cut the bread.

    What happened? The steak knife did a somewhat better job than the butter knife at slicing the loaf of bread.

    Third iteration troubleshooting:

    • I have an unsliced loaf of bread. I now know that the butter knife does a terrible job at slicing bread. I now know that a steak knife does a better job at slicing bread than the butter knife but the results still seem to be lacking.

    • I need to cut a loaf of bread into slices with better results than I get from a butter knife and steak knife.

    • I get a bread knife to cut the loaf of bread.

    What happened? So far, I get the best results from the bread knife. Now I know that of the three options I’ve tried so far, the bread knife is the best solution going forward.

    So every attempt to solve this problem has increased my knowledge and experience. I didn’t forget what I learned in the early iterations so I get to build upon previous experiences and now have that moving forward.








  • If the conversations are something that you want to continue having drill down on any one claim or criticism until you get an idea of what specifics she’s using to feed her opinion.

    “Stalin repressed people!” isn’t the same thing as “Stalin repressed the Kulaks!” as far you being able to figure out what her critique is. You can do some historical research on who the Kulaks were, what was happening in the USSR at that time, what other means were attempted before Stalin rolled in the military, what the consequences would have possibly been if the USSR didn’t do anything at all, etc.

    If you have these conversations fairly frequently, you can hear her out one day, do some reading on other days, and when this type of conversation starts up again bring the topic back around to something she previously said but being more informed.

    Unless its just a thing you two do (being antagonistic towards each other), you don’t even have to set up the conversation as You vs Her. Move into the conversation by reminding her of the thing the talked about previously, it got you thinking about it, and you did some reading and you’d like to share what you’ve learned. Not going to change anybody’s mind immediately but if they’re listening to you and accepting the information, you might stop hearing that particular criticism being used in future conversations.