Magician [he/him, they/them]

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Cake day: July 4th, 2023

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  • I’m not quite there yet, but I’m realizing I can see the steps to get there. Or at least signs that I’m going in the right direction.

    1 Some people won’t like that or say they don’t see what you see. It’s okay that they’re wrong. You waiting for their approval to live your life will keep you from living your life.

    I’ve had a strained relationship with a parent and reached a point where I knew nothing I did would impress them and I kept myself from doing things for years because I didn’t want them to disapprove. I’ve also had friends who insisted they knew things about me that were untrue. They didn’t validate my plans and shot me down when I was excited to do something.

    2 You don’t need to sit down in a quiet place or have an epiphany to know that you want. You just need to start paying attention to what you’ve been saying all along.

    I started thinking a lot about what I want or who I am as a person and it was only today that I noticed my thoughts enough to realize what I was really saying. You know - conversations you come back to, the foods you always find in your fridge, the songs you don’t skip when playing at random. I think I’ve been telling myself the things I want and that’s just listening to myself.

    If you’re not listening to yourself, ask why. It’s my good or bad too not listen to yourself sometimes. But if you have a reason, that can help you understand what things might be important so that you can listen to yourself. Maybe you’re not listening to yourself because you’re in a bad situation. Or you don’t want to make someone upset.


  • In that context, do you mean healing yourself or others? Both?

    It’s nice to hear either way though.

    I’ve been working on my mental health a lot lately and I’m trying to heal from a lot of what happened to me. But there’s the weird perfectionism that wants to see me fully healed before I can move on with my life. And maybe I just need to move on with my life. Healing 100% isn’t going to happen to me right now, not that I would know what that would look like. And ultimately, that isn’t my purpose and maybe it should be at a threshold, like ‘healed enough’ so I can do whatever my purpose is.

    Alternatively, as a leftist, I think a lot about my privilege and my responsibility to make the world a better place. I guess, ‘if I have the energy to heal others then I should try’. But that’s also not necessarily my purpose. My purpose would be whatever it is I’d have if I thought other people were okay enough.

    It’s good food for thought


  • Nobody can write the Black Book of Capitalism if there are no survivors.

    It’s fucking insane to me how people are acting with covid. It’s like everybody stopped paying attention because it was too stressful. But I’m hearing people cough at work and I’m one of three people wearing a mask.

    As far as paxlovid, I wouldn’t be surprised if there was some extra reporting work required to prescribe paxlovid and the doctors don’t want to bother with it. That’s what I’ve noticed with our kinds of prescription or medical issues. Procedures are medications that can really help end up behind paperwork and medical professionals with fried brains.