The most challenging behaviour is his executive dysfunction. He has problems transitioning to a new task and he lets out his emotional distress on me. 2. He is suspected to be autistic as well, so take this with a grain of salt. Since he let’s out every frustration he feels, he often insults his brother, he complains about everything to me, and he withdraws from his classmates because navigating them as well is too much for him.
3. He has an emergency box with fidget toys and communication cards at school. They allow for him to retreat to a quiet room if necessary. Of course we have fidget toys at home, he just finished 1.5 years of behaviour therapy and he has an indoor trampoline in his room. We talk with him about his problems and offered strategies on how to solve them. Only since he changed to an inclusive school he has the mental capacity to use them! He needs outside help and support for this.
4. We have been ostracised by people. Since we are neurodivergent ourselves we resorted to mainly live in this bubble where people understand this. Of course helping a challenging child is more exhausting. We have a very strong relationship as partners and make it a point to build a strong family bond with our kids. This is helping us immensely. We know that we are not always equally well mentally and take each other’s load if one needs a break. We’re in this together and we are better and stronger together.
5. Our inclusive school has been a great resource so far, and also our psychologist. For me as a mom my own psychotherapy equips me with the tools I need to help my kid. The main support are people who believe us instead of blaming our inconsequential and poor parenting skills. The approach to my kids challenges made and makes the biggest difference.
Feel free to contact me if you have more questions!
The most challenging behaviour is his executive dysfunction. He has problems transitioning to a new task and he lets out his emotional distress on me. 2. He is suspected to be autistic as well, so take this with a grain of salt. Since he let’s out every frustration he feels, he often insults his brother, he complains about everything to me, and he withdraws from his classmates because navigating them as well is too much for him. 3. He has an emergency box with fidget toys and communication cards at school. They allow for him to retreat to a quiet room if necessary. Of course we have fidget toys at home, he just finished 1.5 years of behaviour therapy and he has an indoor trampoline in his room. We talk with him about his problems and offered strategies on how to solve them. Only since he changed to an inclusive school he has the mental capacity to use them! He needs outside help and support for this. 4. We have been ostracised by people. Since we are neurodivergent ourselves we resorted to mainly live in this bubble where people understand this. Of course helping a challenging child is more exhausting. We have a very strong relationship as partners and make it a point to build a strong family bond with our kids. This is helping us immensely. We know that we are not always equally well mentally and take each other’s load if one needs a break. We’re in this together and we are better and stronger together. 5. Our inclusive school has been a great resource so far, and also our psychologist. For me as a mom my own psychotherapy equips me with the tools I need to help my kid. The main support are people who believe us instead of blaming our inconsequential and poor parenting skills. The approach to my kids challenges made and makes the biggest difference. Feel free to contact me if you have more questions!