done [she/her]

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Cake day: August 23rd, 2023
  • done [she/her]@hexbear.nettotraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaannnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net•What was your “it was obvious in retrospect” moment?English
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    10 months ago

    I obviously cant speak to your kids future experiences, but that kind of mirrors my experience. Once i got over “oh ok im a boy apparently?” in my childhood, once puberty came i got really depressed and deeply not okay. What i needed growing up was exposure to and normalization of trans identities (and for people to not assume i was a boy, but thats a big ask in this society). Even just a book with the super cis-accessible ‘born in the wrong body’ narrative. But my home life was a bit messy, so little support there, and school was, well, public school (read: rife with homophobia), so any feelings i had got pushed down and funneled into self hatred and shame.

    I hope your kiddo has an easier time figuring things out, but even just having parents who are aware of trans identities and whatnot is a huge win in my book :)

  • done [she/her]@hexbear.nettoanti_cishet_aktion@hexbear.net•Weekly Queer Thread (8/26/23)English
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    10 months ago

    So, to level with you, norway is better than specific places in the US. But if access to hormones is a must, then you should prepare for a long wait. I would almost recommend denmark or sweden or finland in that specific regard, because they are in the EU and should accept gendergp perscriptions, but those countries arent exactly good for trans people either. Norway may get better on the subject of trans rights and healthcare, and if so its honestly not a terrible place to live, its just not good. But it has guarantees on things that the US doesnt, such as housing. For me hormone access becomes an issue because DIY is technically illegal/semi legal, and norway can be a bit deportation-happy.

  • done [she/her]@hexbear.nettoanti_cishet_aktion@hexbear.net•Weekly Queer Thread (8/26/23)English
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    10 months ago
    Im pissed af at norway (vent/rant incoming)

    for being a transphobic state that forces me to choose between being deported and getting to exist. My friend (who was almost killed by NBTS cause theyre fucking incompetent assholes who would rather a trans person die than admit that they made a (small) mistake) says that once ive changed my legal gender i can demand estrogen from my normal doctor (bypassing NBTS), but i still need to look at the law to see if thats correct, plus changing my legal gender is a huge complicated mess cause it involves two states that dont cooperate at all, and i think the doctor can just straight up refuse to perscribe cause theyre “not knowledgeable enough” or “uncomfortable”. Fuck you norway you sack of shit fuck you fuck you fuck you. If you valued trans bodies half as much as cis bodies you would have addressed this years ago. But fuck, you just dropped forced sterilization as a requirement for gender change in 2016, and voted against apologizing to the victims of your eugenicist inspired policies. parliament is obsessed with “letting the experts make decisions in their field” but the field of trans healthcare is captured by terfs, transphobes, and hateful shitfucks who want help us by forcibly assimilating us into their gender hegemony just on the other side from our AGAB.

    I dont know how relevant all that is, im exhausted and upset and probably not super cogent/on top of shit rn.

    Im just tired of cis (and even some other queer people) saying its not that bad

    or worse espousing norway as some great place for trans people. I mean, sure, i just get laughed at instead of murdered when im out on the streets, but thats not an idicator of an accepting society or a good place for trans people.