• flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      9 hours ago

      We don’t know how long they’ve been together.

      I would not want my first meeting with someone’s mother to be on their deathbed. And as a grown woman, I wouldn’t want my son’s new piece of ass at my deathbed, either.

      • ByteOnBikes@slrpnk.netOP
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        8 hours ago

        I definitely was a weirdo who didn’t understand this. Girl I dated for two weeks shared she wasn’t available because of a funeral and my stupid horny ass said, “I can go with you. It’ll be like a date.”

        And she had every right to give me a wtf face.

        And that’s when I learned time and place.

    • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
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      11 hours ago

      Yeah, barring some kind of established issue with hospitals.

      Can’t really hold it against someone when they have avoidance of a place that’s damn near universally traumatic, even with the best possible outcomes.

      I worked in the damn things here and there over the years, and I despise being at one as a visitor, even when it isn’t to visit a patient. I’ll do it when necessary, but I know how that little kernel of dread feels, so I can’t blame anyone that can’t/won’t visit in a hospital.

    • lurch (he/him)@sh.itjust.works
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      11 hours ago

      yeah, there will probably be plenty of new years for the gf, so why not spend this one with someone who’s days are numbered.