They’ll deny that it’s actually mutilation.
They’ll get angry at your persistence and your unwavering position.
They’ll plead and bargain over how it’s actually a good thing, and how no one wants the child to be “different”.
This is what happened when i asked my mom about it. We did not reach the next two stages. We no longer speak but not at all because of this matter so i guess I’ll never know if she feels bad for doing it.
I realize I’m making it seem like it’s something that I think or talk about a lot but I only get obstinate about it when it’s brought up by someone else
My mum is the same, she’ll avoid the discussion or get really bad faith mean when pressed. Cuz of this and a few other stuff, we have no relationship now. We’d probably be fine-ish if she took 5 seconds to apologise for 3 things.
When I went down the rabbit hole of this years back, I got REALLY angry. It took a long time for me to pull out of it. I hope you’re doing OK.
I appreciate the sentiment but I’ve been ok with it for a long time.
CW non-traumatic personal parental stuff
Pretty easy to get over it when i have a lot of evidence that my mother’s a narcissist and likely did it without regard for me at all and if my dad protested(unlikely) she probably manipulated his emotions.
I’m sorry about all that. That’s gotta be hard to get over.
In regards to my parents, they’re just normie centrists, so it’s a bit more surprising that they could be so cold. I feel like being boomer white settlers does this to people.
Yeah, I get it, I don’t think about it either until it’s brought up. I’ve never asked my parents about it directly, and I probably won’t. My parents are pretty cool, and I know that when I was born, that is just how everything was done. I don’t say that to excuse it, but it’s not like the people around them were challenging them on it, and they would have likely accepted the idea had it been presented to them. They’ve had no issue with my son not having it done.
This is what happened when i asked my mom about it. We did not reach the next two stages. We no longer speak but not at all because of this matter so i guess I’ll never know if she feels bad for doing it.
I realize I’m making it seem like it’s something that I think or talk about a lot but I only get obstinate about it when it’s brought up by someone else
My mum is the same, she’ll avoid the discussion or get really bad faith mean when pressed. Cuz of this and a few other stuff, we have no relationship now. We’d probably be fine-ish if she took 5 seconds to apologise for 3 things.
When I went down the rabbit hole of this years back, I got REALLY angry. It took a long time for me to pull out of it. I hope you’re doing OK.
I appreciate the sentiment but I’ve been ok with it for a long time.
CW non-traumatic personal parental stuff
Pretty easy to get over it when i have a lot of evidence that my mother’s a narcissist and likely did it without regard for me at all and if my dad protested(unlikely) she probably manipulated his emotions.
I’m sorry about all that. That’s gotta be hard to get over.
In regards to my parents, they’re just normie centrists, so it’s a bit more surprising that they could be so cold. I feel like being boomer white settlers does this to people.
Yeah, I get it, I don’t think about it either until it’s brought up. I’ve never asked my parents about it directly, and I probably won’t. My parents are pretty cool, and I know that when I was born, that is just how everything was done. I don’t say that to excuse it, but it’s not like the people around them were challenging them on it, and they would have likely accepted the idea had it been presented to them. They’ve had no issue with my son not having it done.