Recently, many of our anti-Zionists posts have been downvoted to oblivion by liberals. As hexberians realized a while back, downvotes only help liberals since they are more numerous and they don’t need to engage in discourse. I am proposing to just get rid of downvotes and instead engage in discourse on content that we disagree on.

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    This is the whole point, isn’t it?

    The removal of downvotes makes you used to cruel, surface-level, replies.

    Now you’ve baited me into a reply that took time and thought, and you can glibly ignore it to insult me.

    This is why I don’t want Lemmygrad to become like Hexbear - these interactions hurt my feelings and stress me out.

    I get that you’re doing the Hexbear thing of associating me with All That Is Evil, and now you feel comfortable unloading everything on me.

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      At this point I hope hexbear defederates from lemmygrad. The civility fetishism here is absolutely disgusting.

      This is why I don’t want Lemmygrad to become like Hexbear - these interactions hurt my feelings and stress me out.

      Good. Now you know even a modicum of what it feels like to stand up against liberals who run in, argue against your lived experience, and shut you down when you get angry over their precious ‘civility’. Now, think about some of the shit I’ve been through. I’ve had to fucking beg gays in LGBT orgs for years to even get an endorsement of a trans organization. Not even funding, not even material support! An endorsement! And when you become indignant when they won’t even do that, of course they are excited to talk down to you about civility. You have no fucking clue how angry civility fetishism makes me. (and for the record, I hate the Human Rights Campaign, their argument was that our area wasnt ready for trans issues to be publicized in any way and were afraid to stick their necks out for us)

      Proactive moderation is better than reactive moderation. We should be improving the tools at our disposal to hedge the worst impulses of social media. As a matter of fact, a proactive approach to this conversation to begin with is not to debate me from the outset, but to ask questions and consider what tools would be better than just removing downvotes. There were some people that went into this line of thinking, but its ultimately unsatisfactory (re: keeping downvotes and showing who is downvoting still can make a user aware they are being harassed. it is better remove vectors of harassment and then focus on the core of what makes a community a community, and usually that is comments).

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        At this point I hope hexbear defederates from lemmygrad. The civility fetishism here is absolutely disgusting.

        Behold the prudes who desire not to have shit flung at their faces. This cleanliness fetishism is disgusting.

        Your demeanor indicates one thing to me. You need to log the fuck off. I’m not trying to be patronizing, you’ve seemingly completely forgotten how to act like someone worth engaging with.

        This shit-flinging tantrum is regarding upvotes/downvotes, not whether trans people deserve human rights or not, try to fucking remember that. It ain’t “civility fetishism” when people ask you to explain yourself after calling them losers and bigots. This is little more than wrecker behavior.

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          I see it as endorsing a vector of harassment against trans people. It has happened before and it will happen again. You can act like its small, but small things build up and cause trans people to be shunned from spaces.

          As in my example, an endorsement is small. But a liberal cannot even handle that. Lots of he/hims in my replies though, fun detail.

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        The civility fetishism here is absolutely disgusting.

        Do you want me to insult you? Or is the civility only supposed to go one way?

        It feels like you’re treating the Hexbear downvoted removal as if it’s the same as what’s happening here. I don’t see the similarities.

        Almost every single post and comment in LG has 1-6 downvotes, from federated instances, always.

        Sometimes a bot gets spun up that slams 30-60 downvotes for a day or so, until they get blocked or the instance gets banned.

        These users are constantly spinning up new accounts, and trying again. If they weren’t able to do that, what kind of harassment would they move on to?

        LG is part of the wider lemmy space, and HB was not (at the time of the downvote removal).

        This is a different instance, with different conditions, and if I wanted to have an hb account I would.

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          Do you want me to insult you? Or is the civility only supposed to go one way?

          I explained to you that debating a lived experience of a minority is not how you go about this. It always ends in this. I even explained how to do better. Did you not comprehend that?

          It feels like you’re treating the Hexbear downvoted removal as if it’s the same as what’s happening here. I don’t see the similarities.

          Almost every single post and comment in LG has 1-6 downvotes, from federated instances, always.

          Sometimes a bot gets spun up that slams 30-60 downvotes for a day or so, until they get blocked or the instance gets banned.

          I fail to see how this doesn’t help lemmygrad. Downvotes would not be federated, so they wouldn’t affect your feed. If someone from lemmy.world or lemmy.ml sees those posts, they will still see the downvotes on their end because those admins havent purged the downvotes. Unless there is some sort of new spam feature that I’m not aware of.

          These users are constantly spinning up new accounts, and trying again. If they weren’t able to do that, what kind of harassment would they move on to?

          Apples to oranges. Its easier to harass people with downvotes. DMs and comments are less common. And for the record, if I could precog and shoot them through the monitor, I would. Until we get communist precog tech, you’d need to have some sort of way to screen spam and dms and comments from new accounts as that is the bulk of issues. When it comes to targeted harassment, being able to allowlist certain people or instances to dm you is good, and it would also be good to have a hashlist for removing shock content. As an example for an allowlist, maybe if you ever upvoted someone, it could be an option to have that as a dm allowlist.

          Luckily I have only experienced DM harassment on hexbear twice, both users were banned within 10 minutes. Still needs an improvement, I did not need to see that dick.

          This is a different instance, with different conditions, and if I wanted to have an hb account I would.

          If you’re worried about the site culture, the site culture of hexbear and blahaj are very different and remained roughly the same as before, minus downvote harassment.