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Luckily my friends get it. I just say a bunch of similar words or things related to the vibe of the word I’m searching for and they get it.
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I describe ADHD as a purely executive disorder that harms your progress/goals. Which is why I agree with your statement as all those claims don’t really harm an overarching goal.
People with ADHD do things like frequently forget their driver’s license or frequently forgetting their office key card. It affects their day to day lives in more noticeable ways than just “whoops I put my thing in the pile of clothes, now ive lost it”
In many cases like this, it’s the frequency these things happen. Once in a while is normal. Every single moment isn’t.
What’s kind of lost in your sentiment, but it’s nonetheless necessary to understand, is that ADHD experiences exist on a spectrum, as do normative ones. We are the ones who draw the boxes around biology and decide that “five times a week is normal but six is not.”
The key part of ADHD that makes it distinct is the final D(isorder). Disorder means it’s a behavior or tendency that’s causing disruption or otherwise preventing you from living in a way that makes you feel safe, whole, or stable. It brings disorder instead of order.
So while I agree that frequency can point to ADHD, my SO experiences this particular phenomenon about as much as I do, and I have high confidence that they do not have ADHD. Sometimes, it’s just a common human experience.
Whether it’s ADHD or chronic fatigue, the same stims will fix it.
That may be bad because if the treatment works, people assume the diagnosis is correct.
Rule 1.
What did I miss?
Typical whinefest of “UM ACTUALLY THIS ISN’T ADHD SPECIFIC”. Bit more preachy than most given it was multiple paragraphs long.
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I dunno bro/broette — you should talk to the other people in your life about how often they experience the last few on your list. You may find you’re one of us.
Just maybe that isn’t literally “everyone” and that “everyone” is rather a certain fraction with this set and is more of a gradient higher in occurances.
You, incidentally, didn’t mention the key aspects. Obsessive focuses and focus methods used obsessively are kind of not in there anywhere. Also that these obsessive tendencies offput all the occurances that you described.
The relation therein is something we are familiar with. Furthermore, that those without such obsessive tendencies don’t relate over the listed occurances as some kind of frequency.
Fact of the matter is that there are a good set of factors that this “disorder” is defined about. You’re drivelling about the frustrations we have. Note that they are not using these frustrations as the definition of the disorder itself by as the byproduct of suffering from the disorder’s key elements.
Some people here should take a look at the sticky post in this community…
A painful amount.
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And I’m tired of comments like yours that blatantly ignore the sticky and rule 1.
But here we are.
I don’t think it’s “party pooping” to comment on a post and my opinion on how it is not an ADHD specific trait and humans as a whole do this.
Soooo … You can feel however you want to, I have ADHD myself (diagnosed by a doctor) so I’m not totally talking out of my ass. But it doesn’t mean I’m some sort of expert either.
Given this is a meme community and none of this actually matters, I think we’ll all be ok.
Given this is a meme community and none of this matters
People with ADHD should have a space where they can meme their symptoms, and be safe from some assholes giving the tired, constant, shows-up-all-the-time BS about “well NORMAL people experience this TOO!”
It is minimizing and it’s exhausting. A community is allowed to say no, thanks, we don’t want to see this same conversation under every single damn post. And having ADHD yourself doesn’t give you a pass to be that guy.
You should try actually reading the sticky that is attached to that rule instead of just assuming what it is about. Because yeah. Your comment directly is in violation of that which is why your comment was removed.
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And this time I can’t even see your comment. Was just straight up removed.
Quit while you’re ahead.
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I have ADHD and SO doesn’t. We both initiate this “game” and with about equal frequency.
Sometimes you just don’t word good.
Ah, but watch out for the surprise single player edition where I get annoyed with my dialogue partner having the audacity trying to guess what I wanted to say.
And you have a crystal clear mental image of your intent, but there is absolutely no other way to describe but “you know, the thing that does the somewhat tangential word that still isn’t right… the thing!! Y u no understand!?!”
And the extra side game of; “I found a word thst kind of does the job, and I’ve explained what I needed to, but it wasn’t that word and I will be unsatisfied until I figure out what that word is!”
It can be kind of fun…
So, I always thought this was more a autism thing
Autism and ADHD have a large overlap in symptoms, but have enough to be distinct experiences.
It’s a human thing.
It’s like I always forget what I’m going to say when I walk through… Uh… Those things you have to move aside if you want to enter a room? Fuck! What are they called?
Bellhops.
They can get lost in their thoughts sometimes, but usually they are very helpful.
And they don’t get it right but want to move on with the conversation. Now you don’t hear anything they say, just trying to remember the word. You try to force yourself to listen but you can’t stop your brain from going through every word you know.
Two hours later you yell out “effervescent”. You’re overcome with relief only to realize the other person is one and now you’re in a work meeting.
Every fucking day multiple words and concepts a day. Sometimes only days later the word comes back and then “fuck that’s what I wanted to say” and keep repeating the word for hours in hopes of not forgetting again.
This happens to me a lot, I didn’t know it was a symptom of adhd.
I’ve always had this where I “know” what I want to say but the right words aren’t there, or I’ll be thinking multiple words to articulate the thought and mash them together. Is that the same thing?
I also change topics a lot and then jump back, which my brother hates, but it’s how I naturally follow trains of thought.
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I seems to have that to. Also not knowing it was adhd… sounds possible
My wife wants to play this stupid-ass game all the time, I hate it. It would not be too bad if the gesticulation and words trying to hint at it made sense…but It’s just her waving her arms like she’s having a seizure while mumbling nonsensically, and her getting annoyed at me becauae she doesn’t make any fucking sense.
She wants to play it? Man, I hate this game.
Maybe you just aren’t good at the game. Have you thought about taking a remedial adhd charades class to get better at it?
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