• beef_curds [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      It makes me sad a bit, because it sort of indicates a lack of connection to local community. I don’t think you can navigate irl queer community without running into some queer commie who doesn’t care about tone, or some enby chaos gremlin who likes to have fun.

      It may not be your vibe, but if you can’t even contextualize what’s happening here, it’s a bit of a tell.

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      I’ve seen one of these clowns get called out for that exact kind opf transphobia and he admitted he had never talked to a trans person IRL. Remember that r/196 has always had a massive chaser problem because it’s full of V*ush fans.

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        It’s also chauvinism, applying a political litmus test to declare who is trans- as if they have a monopoly on it or something.

        The chaser stuff really bothers me too, I try to give people the benefit of the doubt when it comes to being horny, but when you’re doing shit like that in what are supposed to be trans spaces? and acting like you get to say what politics are allowed? just sends me into a rage

        abbysmuscles said it best here for anyone scrolling https://hexbear.net/comment/3763733

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          I’m generally careful with the term, i get that not everybody dating trans people is a chaser, i have cis masc friends who’ve been in relationships with trans girls, i cherish all relationships where i see my sisters thrive, i’m t4t myself, but as soon as something that may be fetishization and something that is obvious transphobia intersects, the case is crystal clear.