Sorry if this topic is stupid, I feel very stupid right now. I got transferred to a new department and I’ve had 2 or 3 clashes with the new boss about me not getting the hint. He finally gave me a metric, a number to get to. He spelled it out. I can do that, but I’m just freaking out that he’s gonna fire me because I couldn’t get the clue until today.
Because I’ve been berated for decades about how I’m stupid for not getting the point, training me to think it’s my fault. Anxiety isn’t rational.
I understand. You’re right that anxiety (or any emotion) isn’t rational, but try to remind yourself that communication is a two way street.
They obviously hold a position of power considering they are your boss, but it would be good to discuss expectations and boundaries to prevent miscommunication in the future!