For me there’s a bit of a network effect where the polycule sprawls out into the distance. Partners have partners who have partners.
But for disconnected folks, it’s mostly been tinder (yuck), and a local meetup.
(Also this might be the first post? That or nothing federated yet)
I do a lot of that, but sometimes giving people the poly 101 lessons is exhausting. It’s nice when you match with someone who already knows the ropes.