Sorry to hear that, dude. IDK your age, but a lot of times life gets a lot easier when you get a little older. Loneliness is a pandemic in modern society. People feel lonelier than ever before, according to multiple surveys. I did too, after I moved across the country. What really helped was picking up outside hobbies, that eventually led to picking up like-minded acquaintances, and a few friends. The cool thing about meeting people while pursuing hobbies is that they’re active people, and it’s a lot easier to set up reoccurring plans to hang out.

To your overall point, when I was a kid my Mom would not allow me to say “I can’t”, it was a forbidden phrase in our household. If I ever said it, she forced me to figure out how I could. I disliked it back then because I was mostly just whinging, but it was a valuable life lesson that has benefitted me a lot, especially in early adulthood when things felt so impossible.