Do not look at internal bordergore. No matter what you do, do not look at the vassal structure.

Stimmt, das habe ich si noch nicht gesehen - aber es ist ja richtig abstrus, dass wir für andere Länder bürgen, für uns selbst aber nichts aufnehmen dürfen.

Wild.

Ach, das sind nur besorgte Mitbürger und Geschichts-Fans! /s

Ich glaube, der Manager spricht hier spezifisch an, dass ja nicht spontan mehr Leute am Freitag erkranken (werfe ich jetzt mal in den Raum).

Verstehe mich nicht falsch, ich bin definitiv dafür, die Großkonzerne zu enteignen und in Volkseigentum zu überführen kein Freund von Tesla, aber das System wird hier schon sehr offensichtlich ausgenutzt. Es wäre absolut der smarte Schritt, die ungünstigen Arbeitszeiten mit besserem Gehalt zu kompensieren - das ändert halt aber auch nichts daran, dass Leute ein System betrügen, vorausgesetzt die Tesla-Zahlen stimmen. Beide Parteien verhalten sich hier ethisch problematisch, meiner Auffassung nach.

Well, Saint Jiub solved the problem luckily

That’s actually a thought I had myself for a long time and on which I’d love to elaborate a bit more.

In psychotherapy (and CBT especially), there is a model where our thoughts create our feelings. Epictetus wrote two thousand years ago that “not the events make us suffer, but our judgment of them”. I think that’s an interesting approach, but I also think there are strong limitations. Some example can be obvious - like when a person is hungry, it wouldn’t be a good idea to tell a person " you’re suffering because you think you shouldn’t be hungry", but some can also be a bit less obvious. E.g. I am part of the queer community and sometimes get catcalled on the street. I could argue with myself now that I “make myself upset” about it and I create unnecessary suffering in my head, but that would to some extent shift the creator of the hurt they caused onto me. Like I would try to convince myself that part of the reason why I’m hurt is because I have the belief I shouldn’t be hurt by them catcalling me, and I think that’s a very dysfunction approach.

I think what heavily matters is how much I do suffer. If someone would catcall me and I’d grab a gun and kill the person, that would hardly be proportional. In this case, I would definitely at least to some extent have cognition’s which contribute to my suffering in a way which is avoidable.

Coming back on to the topic, what I’m interested in is where “the line” of an appropriate emotional response would be for me. I feel excluded and don’t really belong; I think that’s to some extent true, and it’s also okay that I don’t feel good about it. However, how much is appropriate? Should I just feel a bit isolated? Should I be sad now and then? Should I cry myself into bed every night?

The point for me is connected with the question how I should proceed. I absolutely feel the pressure to conform to society. But how much pressure (and suffering from not abiding) is appropriate? And is the amount of pain and sadness I feel extremely high? If yes, then I probably at least have some influence on a part of the suffering. If not, I risk trying to convince myself that I shouldn’t be sad feeling excluded and lonely, and that it isn’t that bad, etc.

Tl;dr - do I create the suffering myself or do is it a normal response of my psyche, and it would be self-hurting to convince myself that I create this suffering myself?

Thank you! Relating and understanding already helps me a lot. In the end it just means that I am not really broken, because if a lot of people relate to my feeling we can’t all be broken, yk?

Thank you a lot! I know on a rational level as right that I’m not broken, that I’m just different. My psychology knowledge also helps a lot here, because I can contextualize my personal disorder into a more “neutral” framework and know why I feel the way I do. It sucks a lot though if basically every person I know at least to some extent goes to partys and concerts and have drinks and watch series with their friends, and for me the greatest joy is to sit next to a river and read a book. This huge difference between what I like vs what a lot of my friends like is draining.

It helps me a lot to know that I’m not alone with my experiences, and that it gets better after uni + a few years of growing older. The fact that someone can relate to my feeling makes me feel less alone and somehow validated. Thank you!

I am a bit late to the party, but I still wanted to give in my impression because I didn’t see it mentioned by anyone else yet.

I think for me, it feels extremely overwhelming. I feel myself shutting down, speaking becomes basically impossible. Luckily I can still write on my phone, albeit with huge effort, so I can somehow communicate with other people. I only meltdown when I’m in a safe space, but I also remove myself when I notice it gets too much. This feeling of “it becomes too much” is difficult to describe, but it feels like an inner shaking and rumbling. A bit like a volcano. For me personally, this is an unmistakable sign that I need to get out of a situation right now. I do not know if I’m able to go beyond this rumbling sign and not meltdown, and I’m not really keen on trying so. I presume that it would probably depend on the situation, on my resources and the context.

I think the most surprising thing about it is that some very deep part of me likes the feeling of a meltdown. It is difficult to describe why, especially because a meltdown isn’t fun or relaxing in any way. For me however it feels like a huge power which I am absolutely not able to control in any way, so I can just let myself go in some sense. I don’t have to try and function anymore, nor do I have to behave in a certain way; instead I can just let myself happen. It is a very deep unity with myself and my needs. That doesn’t mean at all that I try to have meltdowns; usually after one my day is done for, I’m basically just existing, my head hurts and I feel absolutely exhausted.

In terms of communicating, I’d advise you to prepare some cards beforehand with phrases you might need (e.g. “I need a dark room”, “Please stay here”, " Could you bring me some water" etc.) Just common things you might want to say. Then you won’t have to struggle with saying or writing, but can just pick a card.

I would love to finish this comment with a reminder that the way you, I and we experience and feel the world is valid and okay. Having a meltdown and e.g. struggling to communicate during one isn’t anything we need to feel bad and ashamed about.

Uiii, richtig nice! Das merke ich mir mal auf jeden Fall, wollte nämlich WoTC auch nicht sonderlich mit meinem Geld unterstützen :)

Ich bin gerade im Auslandssemester in Frankreich und versuche, mich irgendwie ein wenig zurechtzufinden. Habe gleich Vorlesung, und muss mich dann noch ein wenig um Orga kümmern.

Uiii, das klingt richtig nice! Ich habe bisher DSA und D&D spielen können, aber kein Pathfinder - ich hoffe, es macht Spaß :)

Seriously, I’d also recommend to unscrew the screen and screw it back together. For me it made wonders. And if this also doesn’t bring you anything, you should text support - in the end you have a warranty for a reason, right

Ich bin echt schockiert von den Zahlen… Dass jede dritte Frau sich nicht an den Strand traut, weil sie sich zu hässlich fühlt, ist sehr niederschmetternd.

Well, at least now I feel that Musks tweet about liberty and being oppressed and blah are even more funny than ever. He has literally the wealth to buy countries, if he would wish to.

Holy cow, they can lose 90% of their wealth and still be above 100 mil. The math checks out, but my gosh, how rich are they?!

While you may have the right to call yourself what you want, you shouldn’t use it in an “us” context. At least I wouldn’t be okay with it.

I have to fight the urge to start a debate if trains or ships are cooler

That’s enough internet for today

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Ich kann die anfängliche Abwehrhaltung gut nachvollziehen. Aber mit - na ja, wenigen Minuten Recherche - kann man noch viele weitere Einschätzungen dafür finden, warum das Wort veraltet ist. Kurz gesagt: einfach nicht nutzen, sondern lieber gehörlos sagen.