hogslayer [he/him]

I know lots of old people who just started to hit their “hoe phase” and I know swinger clubs aren’t really for the young and pretty most of the time.

how old are you talkin’ here?

but assuming you live in “the west” and go to social gatherings and you’re not a nazi, sex-pest or expecting “porn sex” it shouldn’t be a problem. Remember that the bar is incredibly low at this point, at least for men. Like, if you’re in your 30s, brush your own teeth, wash your ass with soap, you’re basically above average.

Well, I do all those good things and don’t do any of those bad things. Only thing I’m missing is “go to social gatherings” 'cause there’s nowhere for me to go. lol

oh my god, is he STILL HERE?

I think it’s still around though.

yeah, it’s still around, and surprisingly accessible given what literally every other dating site/app has become.

nonetheless it has been slightly enshittified in terms of limiting people’s interactions with the site if they don’t pay. just not as badly as other sites.

I’d say chances are probably pretty high of it goin up, especially if you are looking!

well I’ve been looking my whole adult life, and still no dice. At this point I have to conclude I’m too broken for anyone to be interested in me, even if only for a FWB or fling or whatever.

yeah, same here @ everything you said.

a symptom of horrible social problems.

For me, it’s living at home + no job + no car. Also being really shy due to trauma, and living in a lame place. idk about you.

what is PoF’s niche?

So if I’m in my 30’s and waaaay behind, is there hope I could catch up to the average or am I just gonna be behind forever? lol

People’s lack of time and money doesn’t help, nor the ideal of assigning value to people based upon income level.

yeah, knowing that my value in a lot of people’s eyes is tied to my income level sucks and is discouraging, especially wrt the dating/romance/sex world

Finding a common i interest group can help.

I’ve considered that, but there isn’t much in my city and traveling to a real city is very difficult. I honestly just need to find a way to move.

Sorry. It’s not your fault.

thank you :)

I’m already in my forties. I don’t need any new relationships

why does being in your 40’s mean you don’t need any new relationships?

Personally, I’m in my mid 30’s and been all alone since I was a teenager. I’m really tired of it but I’m not good at meeting people and there’s so few ways to even do that anymore (other than go to a bar and hope I fit in with people there?)

If I didn’t do that it probably would have been from a maker space or ugh the gym.

At the gym I go to, it doesn’t seem like anyone ever socializes with anyone they didn’t come in with (eg. their bf/gf).

In about 2 years of going most days of the week, nobody has ever tried to strike up a conversation with me.