• ButtBidet [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    I just read this. Obviously the perpetrator is scum. I assume that his scientologist upbringing fucked him up. Not that it’s any justification.

    Not that his ex wife deserves as much blame as the perpetrator, but the whole thing had me thinking. Geez, posh people like to pretend they’re nice and good friends to poor people, who they end up exploiting. The victim had to do free babysitting just for a place to crash with a sex pest.

    To all women, I’m so sorry that men exist. Really.

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      I wonder if she was, at one point, even more involved? The main testimony says that Gaiman said something along the lines of “I wish we were back to where Amanda could fuck you too”. I really hope he didn’t mean she SA’d women and girls with him.

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        I’m fast reaching the point where I assume that every single celebrity has a history of being an SA perpetrator until reasonably demonstrated otherwise. And also that “death of the author” is a bullshit concept.

        • corgiwithalaptop [any, love/loves]@hexbear.net
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          Yeah my brain is unable to seperate art from artist.

          I also had a point in my life where I was buddies with Brian from Dresden Dolls and am currently mulling over “how could you have spent years doing one of two things - either SOMEHOW not having any idea how shitty Amanda is, or knowing and continuing to work with her?” Cause it’s one of the two. Either ignorance or moral cowardice. And you don’t spend a decade plus working with someone WITHOUT their shittiness being addressed.

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      Yeah. There’s a clear path there from a weird upbringing to a misapprehension of consent, which combined with kink of any kind can go bad, fast.

      Of course there are likely a thousand ex-scientologist kids who got into bdsm et al and are if anything the opposite of this. Fuck him, what an asshole.

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        Of course there are likely a thousand ex-scientologist kids who got into bdsm et al and are if anything the opposite of this.

        One bajjillion not defending the perpetrator. But the article makes it seem like Gaiman had it a bit worse than others. I’m assuming that he grew up in the bad old days, in the middle of it, and his parents were quite devoted. If I had a point, I’d say that scientology’s leaders need to go to prison as well.

        It seems like his ex pushed him to do therapy, but he didn’t do it as his issues didn’t bother him, but rather everyone else around him.