While multiple factors play a role in falling divorce rates, the costs of separation make going it alone a daunting prospect for many Canadians.

  • Kichae@lemmy.ca
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    1 month ago

    It’s not just the affordability factor, either.

    I’ve been with my partner for 8 years now. We’ve owned a home together for 5. She and her ex have yet to get divorced. There’s been no meaningful impetus to drive them to do it: It doesn’t change their relationship any further, it doesn’t change her relationship with me at all, yet it costs a couple thousand bucks.

    Why spend that on lawyers when you could spend it on car repairs, home upgrades, a plethora of takeout meals, or a vacation?

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      1 month ago

      Yikes man, owning a home with someone married to someone else is super dangerous for you.

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        1 month ago

        Not to mention medical situations. Suddenly you have no rights over your long term partners health/life if they are incapacitated.

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        Both ways. He should live it up for a couple of years. Make sure to use her line of credit and credit cards. His wife’s ex-husband will have to pay half when they finally divorce. Buy a car in her name, sell it, and use the proceeds to buy a car in your name. The possibilities are endless.

        [I am not advocating this obviously. Mostly I am agreeing how super dangerous this is.]

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      1 month ago

      Marriage has all kinds of default legal implications ranging from property ownership to inheritance and tax benefits, and may also affect insurance rates.

      How you are affected depends on where you live and your personal situation.

      Frankly, a blanket statement like this is completely irresponsible. Consult a lawyer on these matters, people. Or spend tens of thousands of dollars later in life dealing with the consequences of ignoring your legal rights and responsibilities.

      • Kichae@lemmy.ca
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        1 month ago

        Frankly, a blanket statement like this is completely irresponsible.

        Only if you’re taking as advice for some reason, not someone’s lived reality.

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      1 month ago

      Hey guess who gets your wife’s pension and insurance payouts? Her legal husband.

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      1 month ago

      What is wrong with you? This is the worst thing I’ve read on lemmy all day