So, from skimming the article it kinda frames it like, you are either traumatized or not and you should “act” like it all the time.
I’m of the opinion, from various life experiences, that a traumatic event is kinda like a bullseye. The center is where those most immediately and severely impacted are at and every “ring” emanating from the center is a group of people who are impacted less and less directly and severely.
Things like 9/11/2001 in the USA only really had a small number of people at the “bullseye” and the rest of us were way out in the rings. Sure there were effects to my life but nothing really traumatic so there really isn’t anything that needs to be dealt with. Me making fun of it, is less about dissociation and more about how the event doesn’t deserve to be memorialized in the way to be a thought terminating cliche.
I remember being in high school and it seemed like, for a pretty small down, one high school aged kid a year at a minimum died. It was kinda sad, but unless you were a friend or family, there really wasn’t anything to be traumatized about. All of the teachers were acting like we were all supposed to be terribly upset, some of the students acted like they were really upset, and it was kinda expected that you were to play along and be sullen and quiet.
My mom told me a story about when she had to tell her coworkers that she had cancer and then had to spend days consoling everybody else who was upset that she had cancer. She hated every minute of it. Then I had to deal with the same thing when my mom died of her cancer, I told my bosses at work (as warning that I might need to duck out of work at random times to deal with paperwork stuff), and then had to deal with some uncomfortably long situations where another employee was very very VERY upset… for me. It was exhausting and time consuming and after dealing with dozens of people for various “executor of an estate” reasons I couldn’t stop rolling my eyes at people who said “sorry for your loss”.
Internet is useful, but too much of it causes… problems, imho.
I guess it could, if a person who went through a very traumatic event got sucked into internet rabbit holes as a cope.
Like, I could see somebody who was a victim of SA or extreme physical violence retreating into internet forums or online video games where they can “role play” as a much stronger person who would have been able to fight back but is still deeply terrified of going outside of those spaces because the trauma hasn’t been resolved.
On the opposite end, are the attempts to keep the trauma alive. Constantly live within that traumatic even and obsess over it as … I dunno… in a fetishistic way.
But then there are people who will see a person who is doing okay, and think, “Wow, they didn’t grieve properly because X or Y or Z. They should have done this or that or the other before being okay.”
I didn’t see anything in the article that jumped out to me as a good example of “the internet inhibits resolution from personal trauma.”
Was there anything in the article that reinforced your thoughts specifically?
Just life experience. I do believe that the Internet has mental effects that we aren’t really aware of. And I believe that the author, based on previous articles, is speaking to that.
I also see a lot of problems with being terminally online.
So, from skimming the article it kinda frames it like, you are either traumatized or not and you should “act” like it all the time.
I’m of the opinion, from various life experiences, that a traumatic event is kinda like a bullseye. The center is where those most immediately and severely impacted are at and every “ring” emanating from the center is a group of people who are impacted less and less directly and severely.
Things like 9/11/2001 in the USA only really had a small number of people at the “bullseye” and the rest of us were way out in the rings. Sure there were effects to my life but nothing really traumatic so there really isn’t anything that needs to be dealt with. Me making fun of it, is less about dissociation and more about how the event doesn’t deserve to be memorialized in the way to be a thought terminating cliche.
I remember being in high school and it seemed like, for a pretty small down, one high school aged kid a year at a minimum died. It was kinda sad, but unless you were a friend or family, there really wasn’t anything to be traumatized about. All of the teachers were acting like we were all supposed to be terribly upset, some of the students acted like they were really upset, and it was kinda expected that you were to play along and be sullen and quiet.
My mom told me a story about when she had to tell her coworkers that she had cancer and then had to spend days consoling everybody else who was upset that she had cancer. She hated every minute of it. Then I had to deal with the same thing when my mom died of her cancer, I told my bosses at work (as warning that I might need to duck out of work at random times to deal with paperwork stuff), and then had to deal with some uncomfortably long situations where another employee was very very VERY upset… for me. It was exhausting and time consuming and after dealing with dozens of people for various “executor of an estate” reasons I couldn’t stop rolling my eyes at people who said “sorry for your loss”.
It’s not really about 9/11, though I get what you’re saying.
I think the proximity of the Internet prolongs the trauma.
Internet is useful, but too much of it causes… problems, imho.
I guess it could, if a person who went through a very traumatic event got sucked into internet rabbit holes as a cope.
Like, I could see somebody who was a victim of SA or extreme physical violence retreating into internet forums or online video games where they can “role play” as a much stronger person who would have been able to fight back but is still deeply terrified of going outside of those spaces because the trauma hasn’t been resolved.
On the opposite end, are the attempts to keep the trauma alive. Constantly live within that traumatic even and obsess over it as … I dunno… in a fetishistic way.
But then there are people who will see a person who is doing okay, and think, “Wow, they didn’t grieve properly because X or Y or Z. They should have done this or that or the other before being okay.”
I didn’t see anything in the article that jumped out to me as a good example of “the internet inhibits resolution from personal trauma.”
Was there anything in the article that reinforced your thoughts specifically?
Just life experience. I do believe that the Internet has mental effects that we aren’t really aware of. And I believe that the author, based on previous articles, is speaking to that.
I also see a lot of problems with being terminally online.
Fair, I can’t disagree with you there.