For me there’s a bit of a network effect where the polycule sprawls out into the distance. Partners have partners who have partners.
But for disconnected folks, it’s mostly been tinder (yuck), and a local meetup.
(Also this might be the first post? That or nothing federated yet)
My poly friend just finds people on Tinder, says they’re poly, doesn’t expect the Tinder person to be poly, and goes from there.
Like they don’t look for poly people. They just find people, say “I’m poly btw”, and see if the person sticks
I do a lot of that, but sometimes giving people the poly 101 lessons is exhausting. It’s nice when you match with someone who already knows the ropes.