I’m scared of posting too many details for fear of self doxing. But I am that guy who N95s indoors everywhere. I never unmask except in front of my partner, who also is careful. I put HEPA filters in my classroom. I also avoid unnecessary indoor activities, like cinemas, gyms and indoor sports. If there’s an interesting event but there’s no ventilation and no one is masking, I’ll give it a pass.

There’s been some positives. I’m way more self confident than I used to be, knowing deeply how shitty and ignorant the average normie is. I used to always second guess myself, and now I don’t. I also spend way less money, as I don’t dine nor holiday. COVID pushed me far into tankie territory, and opened my mind into better understating patriarchy and white supremacy.

Also ya, I don’t get sick ever.

However, I’m such a different person today. I’m not the sweet chatty person I was in 2019. I had an almost femme twang in my voice back then, and now I’m just a ragged pissed off uncle.

One huge disadvantage is that I’m such a media consuming person. Pre covid, I’d avoid TV and games. Now it’s all I do. I’ve become the kind of person that needs someone on in order to eat or sleep. I used to fucking hate these people, and now I’ve become that person.

The other huge problem is that my work productivity is way lower. I used to finish everything up in a coffee shop, now obviously I can’t do that. I can definitely do more in my job and in my org. I regret that I’ve become, honestly, maybe a bit lazy.

  • hogslayer [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    8 days ago

    I’m already in my forties. I don’t need any new relationships

    why does being in your 40’s mean you don’t need any new relationships?

    Personally, I’m in my mid 30’s and been all alone since I was a teenager. I’m really tired of it but I’m not good at meeting people and there’s so few ways to even do that anymore (other than go to a bar and hope I fit in with people there?)

    • ButtBidet [he/him]@hexbear.netOPMEnglish
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      8 days ago

      I mean, I can and would like new friendships, but not at the expense of my physical health or my sanity at having to deal with callousness. In middle age, I’m a lot more tired all the time. My main feeling is just that I’d like to rest.

      I feel for you. It’s not easy making friendships in the car centric hell-hole that is much of the West. People’s lack of time and money doesn’t help, nor the ideal of assigning value to people based upon income level.

      Finding a common i interest group can help. So can joining an org. When I was your age, I found a niche in a lot of the vegan scene, although I’ve dropped it recently due to the levels of liberalism that a lot of the people had.

      Sorry. It’s not your fault.

      • hogslayer [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
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        8 days ago

        People’s lack of time and money doesn’t help, nor the ideal of assigning value to people based upon income level.

        yeah, knowing that my value in a lot of people’s eyes is tied to my income level sucks and is discouraging, especially wrt the dating/romance/sex world

        Finding a common i interest group can help.

        I’ve considered that, but there isn’t much in my city and traveling to a real city is very difficult. I honestly just need to find a way to move.

        Sorry. It’s not your fault.

        thank you :)