I feel you. Been in a similarish situation before meeting my bf. If they’re supportive I actually feel it strengthens your bond, but it is no longer romantic. I hope you do well

all the love comrade

I don’t want to purport to know your situation but you have to live true to yourself both for yourself and also so that you can be the best you to those you care about. Being queer is absolutely full of these weird halfway relationships that don’t map neatly onto the cishet nuclear family track, and it’s rough but it’s worth it. Love still holds up. Plus, no shot you’ll regret it, don’t worry how much it’ll feminize you because you’ll love every bit that it does

You’re in a tough place and I have you in my thoughts, hope things go as well as you could possibly hope and then some no matter what you decide!

I’m sorry, that is a really tough situation. It’s really common to feel that way and have that fear, and being 100% honest it can go either way, including the way you’re (100% legitimately) afraid of. It’s one of the things that exemplifies the inherent bravery of trans people, as well as the challenges of being trans.

Solidarity! Things will work out, even if there ends up being pain on the way there.

Of course if they are not interested in you, you shouldn’t push it but in my experience the broad strokes of someone’s sexuality give you a 99% accurate idea of whether they’d be interested. That 99% accuracy will probably end up being true in which case your best friend will hopefully be understanding and won’t see your transition as a personal attack.

I used to think it was pointless because it wouldn’t feminize me enough to make a difference

Many such cases. Often people who think this way get pleasantly surprised by changes.

This happened to a friend of mine. Her wife tried to make it work, but was just too straight. Amicable divorce, but the emotions were real messy until they moved into separate houses. Everything stabilized within a year, and now everybody is doing great. My friend ended up being very happy with her transition, basically a new and cooler person.

I’m so sorry ❤️

Love to you and your family, friend.

I repressed my gender for ~7 years after coming out as nonbinary/questioning to my husband, when he said “as long as you’re not a transman or don’t get a beard.”

Spoilers, I’m a transman.

Those 7 years were horrible for my mental and physical health. I lost so much.

I can’t say what the right choice is for you. Having kids must make your decision even harder. Whatever you choose, you are valid.

But in my experience, the dysphoria and need to transition only got stronger with age. Until it finally got to the point where I think repressing it any longer would have literally killed me.

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