Have any queer vibes to share? Here’s your place! 
Talk about what’s happening queerly in your life - like coming out, getting HRT, questioning, and all that good stuff.
No cishets allowed! 
hi everyone! sorry i forgot yesterday
doing well today. almost done electro for my face, finally stopped being lazy and epilated my arms and legs, got a new nose piercing, and i’m getting my hair dyed pink again tomorrow 😎
i fly out in in a few weeks to do some gay shit too
omggg thats awesome! congrats!!
thank you!
Noticing more and more how my moments of gender euphoria are when people are uncertain about where I lie on a gender binary.
same
Same! It’s such a good feeling!
Even though my hope is to one day “pass” as a man, I relate to this!
When I bind, wear masc clothing, and leave a bit of my stubble, I’ve had a couple instances where I can tell people were like
because of my gender presentation, and that alone gives me so much joy!Even if I can never pass, confusing the cishets and not being automatically assumed to be a woman would be an okay place to land, too.
Its tricky but i love when it happens
I came out to like a dozen people this week (prior to this week I was only fully out to like 3), and have a couple small social circles that are now using he/him pronouns for me.
Feels better than I imagined, and is also making me impatient to be fully out (but safety is making me try to hold back for ideally another 8+ months). Every person I tell (who accepts me, so far haven’t told anyone who doesn’t) it feels like a literal weight off my shoulders.
Also had the most gender-affirming sex of my life, thanks to my first realistic prosthetic.
And it’s been ~3 months on full dose T now. I had fully lasered my legs and armpits in my early twenties, trying to get rid of the hatred I felt for my body (ouch, wrong direction
) and when I fully cracked my egg recently I felt so much grief and dysphoria over a future of super smooth legs. But. Examining my legs in the light now, I’m seeing tons of new vellus hairs, and patches are going terminal. I’m beginning to feel hopeful that one day I’ll have even coverage over my entire legs again. It will never be what it could’ve been, but honestly anything is better than nothing. I just wanna be a bear 
Sorry this is a novel. I have no other trans community yet.
Novels are good, as are novellas (and I lack the vocabulary to expand on that bit), as are you
Awwwh I’m so happy for you
About to be moving out of Florida next week! Looking forward to moving to a more accepting place. Also just finished my 3rd round of laser. Before moving out of state, going to be coming out to my parents. Wish me luck everybody!
Congrats! And I hope it goes well
Thank you! Hoping for the best, prepared for the worst.
good luck coming out to them! and congrats on escaping from the #1 hell-state! pro tip: the midwest is cheap to live (even in the cities other than Chicago) and has better wages than the south, and the cities there tend to be better for trans acceptance! i made that move a couple years ago and im so happy i did. i actually have a chance of owning a home before im middle aged! i kinda want to move further north midwest to Minneapolis! seems like one of the best places in amerika to live for trans folks, and people in general
This coming Tuesday is my one year HRT anniversary!!
Did your brain pog out immediately when you started on it? I’ve heard it’s like a switch flips and that seems super affirming
Yeah, the first day starting it was one of the best days in my entire life. The excitement kind of died down a little over the following week as it became normal to me, but like it’s change my emotions so fucking much. It’s like putting glasses on or something like that, it’s a lot clearer. I laugh and smile so much more, but I also cry a lot more
this is very compellingIt was the same for me, I could tell I was mad or sad or content but now I can put words to what’s making me feel that way and emotions have much more nuance than pre-HRT which were like just one of 4 categories and that’s it.
Results may vary but yeah it’s dope
Hell yeah! For me that was about when things started getting real heh.
God I hope so. I mean I’ve loved it so far but it has been a bit slow in some aspects, like I’ve still got like next to no breast growth
Unfortunately that’s the thing that takes the longest 😭 I didn’t notice much for the first two years or so really. These days I’m a C cup and am so happy, so patience is key!
don’t forget to take real measurements and use the bra size calculators! C cups are in reality rather small and properly sized bras fit so much better!
(if you’re already doing this, carry on)
yeah, I’ve been measured a couple times in addition to doing it myself. I’m sized properly.
a word of advice: if a woman describes to you a part of her body she is really happy with the size of, don’t come along and call their breasts “rather small” 🙃
sorry didn’t mean it like that. a lot of people don’t know to get measured properly and end up using bras that are too small cause companies want to make money off of fewer sizes.
I figured as much, maybe just err on the side of not making comments about people’s body size or shape.
you are right though, companies don’t want to make a good variety of sizes. I was stuck in a couple sizes that were super hard to find for a while. now I can just get a cheap bra at target if I need, which came in handy on a trip recently
The new self ID law in my country just keeps getting worse and worse, and keeps getting pushed further and further into an indeterminate future. I’m at the point where i will probably go through the old procdure even though it’s super gatekeepy and invasive and pathologizing and human rights violating and expensive because i can’t stand another year of having the wrong name on all of my papers. I fucking hate the SPD for doing this to me
To make matters worse, cis people keep approaching me and think the recent developments are the best news since forever because mainstream media’s coverage of this shitshow is off by a mile.
To make matters worse, cis people keep approaching me and think the recent developments are the best news since forever because mainstream media’s coverage of this shitshow is off by a mile.
We have abolishing of TSG Gesetz at home, at home: Re-drafting of TSG Gesetz.
gonna start identifying as a lesbian bc I’m too ticked off at men. this will probably change whenever i start prog tho lol
my brain: women are so much nicer and easier to date, look at all these lesbians who think you’re hot
me: boys
Cishet Norwegians love to take pride in how progressive our country is on LGBTQ rights, but either don’t care or come up with excuses when you mention the fact that 70% of trans people get refused gender affirming care by the healthcare system, and that non-binary people are automatically rejected because the government doesn’t even recognize their existence. :norway-cool:
The only reason I was able to start HRT today is because I went DIY and ordered hormones online instead
Congratulations on starting hrt! im sorry it isn’t under better circumstances.
i always wondered, if you diy and then get access to the official system how do they handle that? logically, they should be more likely to help, since you’re going to be taking hormones either way and they are better positioned to monitor things, but i imagine reality is t logical.
So, the thing is that there’s only one hospital in Oslo that’s allowed to give gender affirming care to trans people, and the people there really don’t like it when trans people get access to HRT in any other way. They only begrudgingly started accepting people doing DIY after the government forced them to do so a decade ago, and before then they would just reject you the moment they found out. But since they don’t handle trans people on an individual basis everyone still has to go through the exact same bullshit requirements before they’ll actually give you any meaningful help
I’m really hoping to be happier with how I look by the end of next year. I should be finishing up hair removal and surgery by then. My partner said they were ok with me having sex with other people, and I would like to have some sort of FWB relationship, but I don’t feel at all comfortable enough in myself to do that.
Im pissed af at norway (vent/rant incoming)
for being a transphobic state that forces me to choose between being deported and getting to exist. My friend (who was almost killed by NBTS cause theyre fucking incompetent assholes who would rather a trans person die than admit that they made a (small) mistake) says that once ive changed my legal gender i can demand estrogen from my normal doctor (bypassing NBTS), but i still need to look at the law to see if thats correct, plus changing my legal gender is a huge complicated mess cause it involves two states that dont cooperate at all, and i think the doctor can just straight up refuse to perscribe cause theyre “not knowledgeable enough” or “uncomfortable”. Fuck you norway you sack of shit fuck you fuck you fuck you. If you valued trans bodies half as much as cis bodies you would have addressed this years ago. But fuck, you just dropped forced sterilization as a requirement for gender change in 2016, and voted against apologizing to the victims of your eugenicist inspired policies. parliament is obsessed with “letting the experts make decisions in their field” but the field of trans healthcare is captured by terfs, transphobes, and hateful shitfucks who want help us by forcibly assimilating us into their gender hegemony just on the other side from our AGAB.
I dont know how relevant all that is, im exhausted and upset and probably not super cogent/on top of shit rn.
Im just tired of cis (and even some other queer people) saying its not that bad
or worse espousing norway as some great place for trans people. I mean, sure, i just get laughed at instead of murdered when im out on the streets, but thats not an idicator of an accepting society or a good place for trans people.
I’ve been eyeballing Norway as a potential place to move in the future… Fuk. I’m hoping to go further north because I don’t tolerate heat well and I want to leave the US, but it seems there’s not any good safe havens for us in the EU either.
So, to level with you, norway is better than specific places in the US. But if access to hormones is a must, then you should prepare for a long wait. I would almost recommend denmark or sweden or finland in that specific regard, because they are in the EU and should accept gendergp perscriptions, but those countries arent exactly good for trans people either. Norway may get better on the subject of trans rights and healthcare, and if so its honestly not a terrible place to live, its just not good. But it has guarantees on things that the US doesnt, such as housing. For me hormone access becomes an issue because DIY is technically illegal/semi legal, and norway can be a bit deportation-happy.
Went to a local pride thing today and it was so nice just being surrounded by hundreds of other queer people. Even in this shithole state that hates us, we’re out here!
going on a little trip with my friends will try to experiment with non binary pronouns in rl ^^
Taking some online courses and I found a new seasonal job. It’s a shame porky demands I make six figs to not be stuck in bumfuck nowhere, but I will get out of my shitty hometown one way or another.
Ironic how they call us “undesirables” yet whenever we’re around, property values are high. Too high. On the other hand, whenever there are too many so-called model citizen “good 'ol boys” living somewhere, property values are shit.
kinda sad vibes, rambling
i finally decided to brave the medical system to get help with my long covid. im a year into HRT and i’ve spent 7 months of it with this condition and the fatigue/hives/brain fog have kind of traumatized me and i feel like i lost what i was building inside of myself before i got sick. but my new pcp put me on wellbutrin and its actually really helped so far?? i was pissed when that was her first suggestion but like im still fatigued but my mental health’s a lot better now and my brain fog has lessened. i feel like im starting to rly reconnect with myself again and it’s rly nice. i was so scared that i’d somehow lost my womanhood, as dumb as that sounds
